My father is having an extramarital affair. Part of me wants to end my relationship with him for cheating on my mom, but i worry that he will be depressed as he loves me a lot. How do I deal with this situation?

Unfurtantely our parents affairs and their relationships are something that must be solved by them. Don't turn your back on your father because I'm sure he's not wanting to hurt you, instead try talk to him and face the problem by asking him directly his reasons for doing what he has done and then you may decide, after hearing him out, what do you want to do about it.

I think that it's hard to directly tell your dad how you feel about what he's done, especially if you're not open about these things in the family. It'll be good if you can approach him and tell him honestly what you feel. Moreover, if you can forgive your dad for cheating on your mom, continue your bond with your father and go on with your life, it would be the ideal situation. This doesn't mean that you forget what your father has done though. You don't have to rush, just take your time to think things through. Forgiveness is hard but it will give you peace of mind.

The best thing to do is tell somebody. Keeping that kind of weight on your shoulders can be detramental to your health, and happiness. It might make your father upset, but in the end the outcome will be better than keeping it a secrete. Your not alone in this, and your mother would be very greatful for your strength and honesty!

Your words can have too much power in this situation. It’s better to talk to him alone and it can even help him to change . In fact, he is a lovely dad and would it be right to hurt him ?

Infidelity is a serious breach of trust and you are justified in feeling betrayed by what must seem like a selfish act on the part of your father. However, it is useful to remember that people become unfaithful for different reasons and it is important to communicate with your father about his decisions. It might also be useful to try to make him understand how his actions affect those around him and to ask him to take some accountability for it. I am sorry you had to experience this. It is a truly disruptive and psychologically destabilizing experience. But talking to an individual and/or family therapist can help you and your family heal from the pain in productive ways, whether your parents choose to remain together or not.

You should ask your father to leave the other woman and get back to your mother and make her the happiest person on this planet in the name of his relationship with you. If he really loves you, he will improve.

Inform your mother, tell your dad you love him, but what he did is wrong. Being upfront about secrets will gain trust from your mother, and respect from your father

It’s always tough to find about something like that and it’s completely normal to have these conflicting thoughts. Only you can decide what to do so try taking some time to reflect on not only on how your dad may feel but how you feel, then when you’re reading try talking to him about it. Also if you’re feeling angry or upset about this you should try to find a way of coping that works well for you so that anger doesn’t build up until you eventually explode and do or say things you may regret or feel guilty about later.

Talk to him. Let him know that you're aware of his affair. And then also let him know how disappointed you are. I know it feels horrible, but still, that an issue between your father and your mother, and not between you two. Try to separate yourself from that problem. I am sure he values you and loves you dearly, and I also understand you want to 'punish' him for treating your mom wrong. But still, you are a different 'world' for him. Try to not be too harsh on him, but let him know. Hope this helps :)

It sounds like you also love him a lot, but you are disappointed in his behavior. It's difficult to make oneself vulnerable and express how we really feel. But it can also be incredibly rewarding to open up and be honest with the person who has hurt or disappointed us. The key is to do this from a voice of vulnerability and love so as not to trigger defensiveness. Before deciding to shut your father out entirely, it might be worth it to initiate this difficult conversation about how his actions have impacted you. Be sure to have the conversation from a place of love.