My father is always angry - what should I do?

I have never hated anyone before, but I can honestly say that I hate my father. Why? Because for my whole life I have put up with his incessant perfectionism, obsession with small detail, short temper, criticism, verbal abuse, and emotional abuse. He is a very opinionated and angry person and has no hesitation in showing it, both at home and in public. He thinks he is always right and every one else is wrong, and expects to have everything his way. My family have tried to talk to him about his behaviour, but he gets very defensive and loses his temper. He has lost several jobs and doesn't have many friends - that says it all. I don't know why my mother didn't leave him years ago. The worst part is I fear my father's horrid personality is rubbing off on me. I see some of his traits in me, and it sickens me. I would rather die than turn out like him. I don't have many friends and I worry that it is because I am like him. I try not to be like him, and I try hard to make friends, but for some reason it just doesn't work out. Why can't I have a normal father? You know, someone who is relaxed and easy to get along with; someone I can be around without the worry of being told off or criticised; someone who doesn't lose his temper whenever he doesn't get his way; or at least a father who doesn't call me hurtful names and do spiteful things when he is angry. I have never known what it is like to have a warm loving father; a father who doesn't just say he loves me but actually shows it. I have never had a proper father figure in my life, someone I admire and am proud of. And I guess I will never know.

Does it make you unhappy? Do you think it's wrong? My father is always angry when I interact with him - the rest of the time, he ignores me - and the way I learned to handle it was to control my own anger. Being able to say, I'm a bigger, better man than this 50-something adult, at least in this important way...it's very freeing. My victory was not letting him teach me to be small the way he was.

Some people, no matter what you do for them, they will never be happy. While everything is changing, in your mind, sometimes you have to think "This person will never change" and work from there

There's nothing you can do to change your father, he has to deal with his own issues just know it's not your fault no matter how he is

Hey.Hope you are keeping well.So, about your problem.Even my father used to be angry almost the entire day.He used to scream uselessly.So I tried to understand my father.First I started listening to him and did whatever he told me to.Then I made him feel that he is loved. Gradually,his anger started to fade away.So,I guess you should spend some time with your father.Make him feel happy and loved.There is a very good chance that he will change and become a happy and loving dad.Well,let's say he doesn't (the possibility is almost near to zero that he won't change).Then you should try to avoid him.And if he ever tells you to do something,do it, because if you don't, then your dad will not be less than a storm.But you won't need to face the storm because your dad will change.With love everything can be done.

I can really relate to that.. The random surge of anger, the mood swings, the feeling like it's your fault.. I get it.. If there was an answer to this question, I would've told you but there isn't. I can tell you what I do in a situation where my father is angry. I've gotten used to it over the past few years that it doesn't bother me anymore, I let it slide now and I tune him out. Or I go for a walk outside

Perhaps it is his way of expressing his emotions, he doesn't know how to express them in any other way. Don't react to anger with anger, it will only escalate. Wait for him to calm down and try to talk to him.

If you are feeling anything less than safe and comfortable you need to contact someone. I know it is hard and scary. But it's the best thing for you. You could contact a friends parent, a family member that you trust or even your favourite teacher. But you should never feel afraid in your own home, let alone your own father. He is suppose to keep you safe from all harm.

my father too, is always angry.. all the time. When we were little we talked to him but with time due to his strict behavior and violence we left talking to him, because we became afraid of him i have lived half of my life but i have never asked him for a penny by myself or any complaint, argument or gossip. I do not know why fathers behave like this. If he remains unhappy or angry as a habit then mover forward do not pay much attention to his behavior because it will make you worried and your worrying will not change him. Secondly if, he is angry because of some financial reason or something give him time to get even with his troubles. You can just act like one human being behaves with other. Sometimes we cannot ask parents or father to behave like one....