My family always makes decisions for me, what can I do about that?
AnnieElen
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Oct 22, 2014
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You should tell them this is your own life. You will grow up to be successful and have a job of your dreams if you listen to yourself
Alexisheretohelpyou2
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Jul 19, 2016
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Well, when I was younger, my family made decisions for me too. In some cases, it's impossible to make them listen (and I hope that isn't in your case). If you can make them listen, tell them how it makes you feel; if too many decisions are made for you, how can that prepare you for once you live on your own? If you keep quiet, it will impact you badly. Don't become indecisive, it makes you question every decision you make when you finally do things for yourself. Tell them that if they don't stop, they will act as a crutch instead of helping you learn to walk.
Hope this helps!
-Alex
Anonymous
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Oct 30, 2014
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You first can acknowledge your family doesn't always make decisions because there are situations in your life that you were able to decide what you wanted to do. Most family makes decisions for you because they may want what's best for you, but you can disagree with their opinions. You can first appreciate what they are trying to do and understand that they're caring for you. After you express the gratitude, you then explain your feelings about it. Your thoughts and feelings matter.
Anonymous
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Sep 14, 2014
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Let them know how you feel. Good communication is a necessary first step to changing your relationship to others.
guyinasuit
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Nov 6, 2014
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I think the best thing to do, is to be honest about this with your family - tell them that you are upset/unhappy about them making decisions for you, and that because it is YOUR life, you want to involved in making those decisions for YOU.
SophiaBickfordX
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Nov 11, 2014
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Have you perhaps tried telling them that you would like to make a few choices yourself? Perhaps they're trying to help you. Try talking to them about it. :)
FroggySarafina
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Mar 7, 2016
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If you want to make more of your own decisions, talk to your parents about it, and let them know that you are mature enough to handle your own responsibilities.
museofdreams
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Dec 13, 2016
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Talk to them, communication.
If you express how you feel and talk it out with them you might be able to get down to the bottom of it. Sometimes people can be overprotective or overbearing and not mean it.
BattleScarsareBeautiful808
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Aug 21, 2017
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If your family is always making decisions for you then I would suggest talking to them about it and acting in a more mature responsible way. If they see that you are responsible and can handle making decisions then they will respect you as well.
huertar
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Oct 14, 2014
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For starters, tell them how you feel. Your family's response is not guaranteed to be positive or negative, but honesty is key. Secondly, actions speak louder than words - show your family that you take your responsibilities seriously. If you treat your responsibilities with high importance, others can trust that you will do the same with theirs. On another but less acknowledged note, make sure to have your family hold you accountable for your decisions. The point is, someone needs to have your back in accountability and if your family is the current social group that holds your personal decisions for you they may be willing to have your back even if it's at a lower step. Having a key to hold you accountable is not something that your family may always have, but it is a step to leading you towards independence. We all need someone to have our backs, and family is a tie that sticks with us inevitably.
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