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My dad likes to touch me. Is this sexual abuse?

Profile: Sagettarius
Sagettarius on Jan 29, 2020
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I suppose it all depends what you mean by 'touch'. There are different types of touching, some of which are acceptable, others of which amount to sexual abuse. Some families are naturally tactile and hugs, cuddles and embraces are just part of normal, affectionate daily life. And this is all well and good as long as it's above board and consensual. But there are limits to what is acceptable. If your dad starts to 'touch' you in a way you don't feel comfortable with and doesn't stop when you ask him to, then in my opinion that verges on, or is actually, sexual abuse. Any deliberate sexual contact between a parent and a child (especially repeated contact) is sexual abuse and shouldn't be tolerated. If he continues to touch you in ways you feel are inappropriate, you should tell someone. Never let him tell you that this is your fault or it is just because he loves you. This kind of guilt-tripping is typical abuser behavior. You need to put a stop to it one way or another.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 1, 2020
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It depends on the kind and place of touch. Usually, it is appropriate for fathers to have physical contact with their children. However, if the father touches the child/daughter in intimate areas and against the child's will, that can be sexual abuse. Usually, it is sexual abuse when your dad is touching you under your clothes and in intimate regions against your will and may force you to touch him back in his intimate areas for his pleasure. Your dad may threaten you to keep the experience a secret as well. Another good indication is when your dad is also physically or emotionally abusive toward your mother.
Profile: Earthling22
Earthling22 on Jul 5, 2020
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The touch of our parents is something that should make us feel safe and loved. A simple pat on the back or kiss on the cheek should make us feel appreciated and protected. It is common for our parents and dads to want to show their affection through physical contact. However, if your dad touches you in private places, or if his touch makes you feel uncomfortable, it is important to acknowledge your feelings and perhaps even voicing them out. It is possible that your dad only wants to show you his love through the power of touch but at the end of the day it is crucial that you feel comfortable about it.
Profile: professionalRecipe69
professionalRecipe69 on Aug 28, 2020
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short answer no, longer answer it depends, if he's just hugging you or a pat in the back then no but if he's making you uncomfortable, if he's touching you inappropriately, if he's kissing on you or making sexual remarks while touching you than yes it is sexual abuse. if you've told him to stop and he continues. if he talks about you In a sexual manner then. there's a lot that goes into determining if something is sexual or not a simple touch or hug can just be boundaries issue but if he is being sexual or you just feel as if he's intentions are bad then yes it can be sexual abuse
Profile: Riversandmountainsjoy
Riversandmountainsjoy on Sep 24, 2020
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How do you feel about it? It for sure is abuse, whether sexual or emotional. It also is illegal and I would not advise you to think this is normal. I don't know your situation but if he doesn't stop after you told him to stop you should tell someone about it or just not be alone with him in the same room ever. Also I would like to add that you could talk to him, touching could be in different places and if you feel uncomfortable talk to home about it, but if it is on your private parts do not let it slip.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 8, 2020
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It depends on how he touches you. Does he make moves to touch your private parts, or is this just his way of affection? If you feel uncomfortable in these situations, talk to him about it. If you feel unsafe, talk to someone trustworthy, or, even better, talk to a therapist or even call the police if you're in a desperate situation. Just know that you're not alone and that you don't deserve this. You can also try to talk to your mom about it, as she could shed some light on the situation. Keep moving forward and never look back. If you need to, cut your dad out of your life. Sexual abuse isn't something to take lightly.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 31, 2020
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I do believe this is sexual abuse if he you are uncomfortable where and when he is touching you. In my opinion when someone is uncomfortable with something the other person should immediately stop when notified or when he/she notice him/herself. An important question to ask is where he is touching you and what are his motives. Maybe he is being playful or as a joke. But, with your question I think this is highly unlikely. Does he do It when you guys are alone and is it subtle or what leads up to his action. Maybe tell him to stop. I know it might be hard, but it is better in my opinion than being uncomfortable.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 6, 2020
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Is your dad touching you in a sexual manner or making threats towards you? If you are uncomfortable with him touching you, tell him. Communicate what is ok and not ok. Even if he is your dad, he should ask for consent and talk to a trusted adult or friend if you can. It is good to communicate your thoughts rather than keeping it to yourself. If he continues to touch you inappropriately, report him to the authorities. It is not your job to condone his behavior if you are uncomfortable. A father should be protecting their child, not harming them.
Profile: Sierra9712
Sierra9712 on Nov 15, 2020
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Yes this would be considered sexual abuse. It can bring about many different feelings that can be very confusing and scary. It is best to tell an adult or tell someone so you can recieve help. This behavior needs to stop and it can be scary to have to face this alone. Especially when it is your parent that is the one hurting you. I would tell someone so that they can report it to the proper authorities. It may sound scary but this way the sexual abuse can finally end. It may seem overwhelming but you don't deserve what is happening to you and it is not your fault. Your dad is the one with a problem and he needs to be held accountable while you are being safe and protected.
Profile: caringCreature2051
caringCreature2051 on Nov 15, 2020
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Of course it is sexual abuse if he touches you in a way that makes you uncomfortable. You should talk about immediately with someone who you trust and think will not try to shut you up. And if you are old enough to take control of the situation then call the police or the authorities concerned directly. No matter who it comes from bad touch is bad touch. It shouldn't happen. Especially coming from a father, the person who's supposed to be protecting you. Please report it as soon as possible. It shouldn't go on any longer than it already has.
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