My dad likes to touch me. Is this sexual abuse?
Anonymous
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Dec 1, 2018
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It depends on where he touches you and under what intention. If he touches you on your chest ir ass or genitalia (even over your clothes then yes it is sexual abuse. Even touching you without you wanting it is not. Even if you like it its not allowed. You need to talk to someone about it and figure something out to make kt stop before he tries something else. Dont be afraid to reach out to 7cups or friends and other family members because its for your well being. Maybe you its not even his intension to be inappropriate so you can also talk to him and ask him why he does that and that he needs to stop because you feel uncomfortable with it.
Anonymous
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Jan 2, 2019
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where is your dad touching you?, if your dad is touching your genitals then yes it is very much inappropriate however if he is just ruffling your hair then it is not furthermore, if he kissing you on the lips then it could be a
sign of sexual abuse ultimately though what do you think,
does this bother you? if it does you need to think carefully
on a course of action.
Lazier
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Feb 7, 2019
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Well that depends.
Some dads just like to embrace their loved ones and feel close to them on a physical level with no sexual desires behind that. They stroke your hair, your skin and there is nothing bad behind that, as long as you are feeling comfortable with the situation.
If the touch is clearly sexual, like repeatedly touching erogenous zones, grinding movements in intricate areas, then I would say this counts as sexual abuse.
I any case you should tell him, if you feel uncomfortable by his touch. When people start developing a sexual identity they tend to realize certain touches as unpleasent, just like your shame develops over time.
Your Dad which accompanied you since your birth, saw you naked and cleaned you up on a regular basis in your past will have to adjust to this new boundaries you (can) set.
In the end, as long as he respects your decision, all is fine :)
Anonymous
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Feb 8, 2019
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If he touches parts of you no father should go near or touches you sexually then it is sexual abuse. If he is touching you in ways that make you uncomfortable but isn't genitally then it is probably sexual assault which is just as bad. You have the right to tell him NO! And the right to tell someone when he steps out of line. Sexual abuse is often someone making you do something sexually to them that you don't want to, or them doing something sexually to you. Either way it is wrong and you do not need to put up with it. Reach out to someone and talk to them about it
safespace219
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Feb 14, 2019
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Any contact between an older person and a child that is for the purposes of sexual stimulation and results in sexual gratification for the older person is considered sexual abuse. If your dad is touching you in that way, or even if you're not sure and it just makes you feel uncomfortable, then it is not appropriate. If you feel this way, I hope you are able to find someone who you trust and feel safe with, and tell them what is happening. If you don't have someone like that there are most likely local resources you can reach out to. Telling someone what is happening can be difficult, but it is an important step.
Anonymous
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Mar 14, 2019
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First, I am so sorry that this happens to you, but the truth is that yes, this is sexual abuse. If you didn't consent to being touched, or you didn't want him to touch you where he did, then it is sexual abuse. No one should touch you without your express consent. It doesn't matter where he touched you or for how long, it's wrong and you should to talk to someone about it, maybe someone close to you that you trust. Whatever you end up doing, you can't let this continue any further than where it has gone, you deserve better.
morecake
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Aug 14, 2019
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Most of the time, sexual abuse comes from people we know and because of it, we're afraid to acknowledge it or reach out. Sometimes it's because we're not sure whether it's sexual abuse and it's harder to accept that it is because it comes from someone close. But it's sexual abuse if the touching is inappropriate and makes you feel uncomfortable. It also counts if it's inappropriate remarks about your body. If this is the case, then you should reach out to a trusted person or to the police and they will get you the help you deserve
Anonymous
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Aug 18, 2019
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I guess it depends on where he touches you. If he touches you in intimate areas then this is sexual abuse. If he touches you and you do not want him to then that is also sexual abuse. If you ask him to stop and he doesn't, again this would warrant sexual abuse. There are support groups out there that support people going through sexual abuse just as they support survivors of sexual abuse. Sexual abuse is not okay and you do not need to put up with it. Your Dad is an adult and should know better. Nothing excuses that behaviour. I encourage you to speak out.
Anonymous
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Oct 3, 2019
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Depends on the situation but most likely I would say yes. If it strays from something you're comfortable with, even if just remotely, then definitely. If it's just pure affectionate perhaps hugging, and your father tends to do that with any family members and is himself a very open and touchy, then still be on guard but it would likely be okay. However if you ever get a bad feeling from this, feels uncomfortable, or if you feel like your father's affectionate with perhaps only you or only a group of people that you're included in, such as your age range or your gender, than be very careful about this. And since you have this suspicion, always be ready to be able to distance yourself away if anything goes wrong.
eternalidealist
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Nov 19, 2019
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Easy answer...NO. Physical contact between a father and daughter is a natural thing. Fathers wash, dress cuddle and love their daughters and physical contact and being able to express emotion is a positive thing for any child of either gender and should be encourages as part of learning how to express and receive emotion. Simple answer to a simple question. Growing up without that leaves people feeling uncared for and unable to express how they feel in return or uncomfortable to be able to do so. The only time its not ok is if it makes you feel ok, then it becomes a personal choice.
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