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My boyfriend or girlfriend is embarrassed of me. What should I do?

Profile: gaurdianangel36
gaurdianangel36 on Nov 7, 2015
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Discuss what it is they are embarrased about. If its an easy fix and you are ok with changing it do so. If not, try to be understanding of her or his feelings. Explain why this is not something you are willing to change. See if there is a medium compromise. Or discuss what else can be done to address the issue. If the person is wanting you to change things that are unreasonable or are trying to make you someone you arent...a change in partner may be the only answer. It is not good to change your entire self if you dont like the chsnges. That will only lead to resentment.
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Profile: taaytaay363
taaytaay363 on Nov 7, 2015
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If your boyfriend/girlfriend is embarrassed of you, personally i wouldn't put up with that anymore. The person you're in a relationship with should be making you feel good about yourself.. Not bad. I'm not saying to just go and dump him and her, i am saying that it isn't right for someone to do that. best luck to you!
Profile: AbbieCoombs
AbbieCoombs on Nov 7, 2015
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Someone who loves you should not be embarrassed of you! I would talk to them about it about what and explain to them about how it makes you feel. Also get there side and see what they feel. Work on a compromise, compromises are what relationships are built on.
Profile: TheYesMan
TheYesMan on Nov 8, 2015
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It's important to find the direct cause of your problem, and address it together in a mature manner. Although this can happen in any given case and you shouldn't feel ashamed or worried, there are always very specific reasons for this whether your boyfriend or girlfriend realizes / admits it. This topic can get out of hand and lead to an argument considering some of the defense mechanisms we as humans are conveniently equipped with, so the key is to be calm and discuss it using words, and never feeling pushed around (or making your significant other feel that way).
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 8, 2015
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"Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind" -Dr Seuss. You should have a serious discussion with them about how you both feel surrounding why they're embarrassed, and how you feel about your significant other being embarrassed of you.
Profile: redrose321
redrose321 on Oct 8, 2016
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Really question the nature of your relationship. Do they appreciate you for you, or the idea of being with you? Everyone matters, has a place in this world and deserves to be recognized. If this person cannot give you that title in front of others, it means he/she probably does not care for you the way you thought he/she did.
Profile: HeartzForYou
HeartzForYou on Apr 18, 2017
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Hey! The first most thing is to understand what aspect of behaviour makes you think he/she is embarrassed of you. Most relationships face problems due to misunderstandings and confusions. So make sure you talk to your partner without making a direct accusation. Now, the second step is to discover the reason why that might be the case. You might want to introspect and see if you are making a mistake or try to talk this out with your partner, again be rational and peaceful. Finally, if your efforts are failing and your partner still seems embarrassed, may be you should consider where your relationship is heading or visit a relationship adviser for help
Profile: Nyssa2506
Nyssa2506 on Sep 21, 2017
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You should have a face to face talk regarding the same. This is the person you really like and want you in your life. They shouldn't be embarrassed of you. They should be proud to have you. You should ask them the reason for the same and try to arrive at solutions wherein they are satisfied without you having to compromise anything major. The solution can come only if you both talk openly otherwise the situation will just get worse.
Profile: IIAlexeyII
IIAlexeyII on Jun 20, 2018
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Give them some time to think things through. Maybe she/he's embarrassed of dating in general, not you in particular. Try talking to them and understanding just where the problem is.
Profile: Hanaa00
Hanaa00 on Apr 3, 2019
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You have to talk to your boyfriend (or girlfriend). If one person is embarrassed of their partner in a relationship, then it’s not really much of a functional relationship in the first place. No one deserves to be treated like they’re not good enough, and your partner is, by being embarrassed of you, treating you like that. That’s not okay. It’s important to figure out why they’re feeling that way. Perhaps it’s something other than embarrassment. Perhaps your partner has his/her/their own insecurities. Perhaps they aren’t embarrassed, but rather scared of what others might think about your relationship. Either way, communication is the only way to find out.
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