My boyfriend or girlfriend is embarrassed of me. What should I do?

Talk to them about it, maybe theres some sort of missunderstanding and if thats really the case then maybe thats a toxic relationship to be in and you should try and find someone who is not embarressed of you because that could be really upsetting for you in the long run. How do you feel about this? It's obviously really hard to understand but us here at 7 cups are here for you whenever you need to speak. reaching out for help is the best first step and i'm so proud of you. feel free to message me at any point to try to understand this situation futher Holly x

I someone in your life doesn't appreciate you, then they're not worth being in your life. Never change for anyone because you are amazing just by being yourself. Maybe sometimes there are negative things that your SO doesn't really like about you like your, temper for example. Something like that is Ok to control it but not to change that about you, because that's what makes you, you. I would recommend to tell your SO that if they don't accept you for who you are then they shouldn't be in your life. If your SO really loves and cares for you then they'll try to be less embarrassed of you.

Find out the reason why he/she is embarrassed of you. If it is because of your looks or the way you act, then it looks like he does not love you wholeheartedly. A person who truly loves someone will love them unconditionally despite their imperfections or little weird quirks. Plus, these imperfections and weird quirks are usually what attracts one person to another because it makes them unique from others. If he is embarrassed of you due to these reasons, I'm not sure if he truly loves you. This is where you decide for yourself how you'd like to move forward from this.

Having open communication is important! Have a conversation and help each other understand how you both feel about it. Whenever me or my partner have problems, we talk it out and tell each other how we feel, and that helps us reach a solution to the problem that we're both happy with. I suggest trying to understand why your partner is embarrassed of you, and working together to see what to do about it, and whether you need to change, they do, or if it is a combination of both. Make sure to keep an open mind! Good luck with it! :)

I would first ask myself "Why do I think this? What evidence is there that my partner is embarrassed by me" to challenge my own self-criticism. If I still feel strongly that my partner is "embarrassed" of me, I would move on to communicating these feelings with my partner openly and honestly, focusing on why I think this and how it's made me feel. If your partner admits that they're embarrassed of you, you have to decide whether staying with them is worth it or even acceptable. For instance, if your partner points out that you had said something inappropriate or insensitive to them or a friend that hurt their feelings, then being aware of that is important and something to be talked through and worked on. However, if your partner is fixating on rather shallow aspects, like your physical appearance or laugh, then they might just not be the person for you. Everyone deserves to be openly accepted for who they are-- perceived flaws and all-- and a good partner will be receptive to that.

If I were in that situation, I would sit them down and have a really in depth conversation about our relationship. I would say the situation, say how it really made me feel, and ask if they really felt embarrassed of me. Of course, this would all be done without interruptions, but not a lengthy 10 page essay. To the point and brief. Listen to what the person has to say- maybe it's a misunderstanding or they didn't mean to make you feel that way. Or it could be the opposite; they really are embarrassed of you. Depending on the response, then I would know how to pursue the relationship. If the relationship continued after the talk and the same thing happens over and over again, I would definitely reconsider being pursuant of that relationship.

Ask then why. It is better to confront the situation at hand. If they still continue to feel embarrassed, maybe they are not for you. I understand this is distressing but you have to have their clear explanation. It is likely something that will be easily resolved, however if someone is embarrassed of you that would make me quite anxious and unwanted. I can totally see why you would be upset over something like this. I hope your issue is resolved soon. Don't give up hope, there is always plenty more fish out there ready to be caught and they won't be embarrassed.

It is extremely hard with someone, especially somebody so close to us to feel embarrassed of us. The speck of self-doubt and criticism may manifest itself into a huge ocean of everything you think is wrong with you, in your head. Self-esteem may be crushed, along with a sense of deflation in spirit. There is obviously the feeling of hurt or maybe even anger towards the significant other. However, at the end of the day, I feel that despite of it being incredibly hard, we must lend empathy towards our partner and try to understand their perspective. Employing empathy and lending an ear doesn't necessarily mean you validate their way of treating you; it's simply that shows that you are willing to gain clarity as to why they feel what they feel. Therefore, communication is key. The other person, if is open to having an actual, honest conversation, hidden reasons may weed out, which may not even be about you, that's causing them to feel that way about you, for e.g. - it could be their esteem issues or insecurities they are projecting. Further, if there is a difference in mindset or philosophy in life, then it's better to part ways. As each and everyone deserves to be with someone who they can grow with. Having a relationship with the constant feeling of insecurity and embarrassment is anyway doomed to failure, one way or the other.

You deserve to be in a relationship where your boyfriend or girlfriend are there for you and should not be embarrassed of you. You are an amazing person. You can talk to them about it and if that doesn't help you can break up with them. You don't deserve someone to treat you that way. There are plenty of fish in the sea and there will be someone who will give you everything and make you feel amazing. You just have to be patient. I hope this helps and you can also talk to your friends or family about this situation.

There are a few aspects of this to explore that would help you make a decision on how to proceed. 1) How do they communicate this to you? Do they talk to you in private or do they publicly acknowledge their embarrassment? Do you feel respected or disrespected by the way they communicate this to you or others? 2) Has your partner given a reason as to why they are embarrassed? Do you feel their reaction of embarrassment is legitimate or something you would want to change about yourself? 3) What is your partner's perspective? Are they concerned about a behavior or choice you are making? Are they embarrassed and seeking to help you better yourself or are they seeking to actively undermine you for being different from their ideal expectation for a partner? At the end of the day, our partner is ideally someone with whom we share mutual trust and respect. If you feel that trust and respect are a strong foundation for the relationship, then a discussion about what is happening could be to both your benefit. If you feel that trust and respect are not being applied in this scenario, then you may want to consider what you value in a relationship and whether you and this specific partner can share or work toward that at this time.