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Is it okay to distance yourself from your parents if you feel as if you're in a toxic relationship with them?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 17, 2015
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Society does tend to push that whole idea of a perfect family and a strong bond with parents. If your parents aren't the best and your relationship isn't good and negative for you then it is definitely fine to distance yourself from them.
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Profile: Geveda
Geveda on Feb 16, 2015
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Yes. Your parents are your parents, but if the relationship is toxic then having some distance is healthy. You have to make the best decisions for yourself, even if they're decisions that don't seem like they're the popular option for most.
Profile: Oreo
Oreo on Jul 20, 2015
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Yes. If a relationship is bearing down on you to the point where it is no longer bearable, as when you feel attacked or invalidated when you are with them, it can greatly help your viewpoint if you take some time away from their influence.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 7, 2015
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Absolutely. It is crucial to protect yourself from anything that brings unhealthy toxicity to your life.
Profile: ashwarya
ashwarya on Mar 28, 2016
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No. Not all all. It will make things worse. You should talk to them about it and express your feelings.. Communication is very crucial.
Profile: HopefulSong17
HopefulSong17 on Nov 14, 2017
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It's very much ok to do this, esp. if you're a grown up. I left home early and my mindset and worldview got so transformed than when i return to stay with parents for a short time years after, I could not believe I once used to live with that. It was demoralizing. So glad, I got the chance to be away. Now, I can be a catalyst for better with them. From the distance. lol It still works. ;)
Profile: bunnyofdarkness
bunnyofdarkness on May 1, 2015
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It is definitely ok! If you feel that your relationship with your parents is emotionally harmful for you and you can remove some of that, then there is nothing wrong in doing it. You have to look after yourself.
Profile: aimy
aimy on Jul 25, 2017
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Yes! I personally believe that going no contact or low contact with toxic parents is the best option. If you're in a toxic relationship, it's deemed acceptable to leave them - so why shouldn't it be that way for family members?
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 19, 2015
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No matter who they are, if the relationship is harming you in anyway, you have every right to distance yourself from it - this is the logical and mature thing to do
Profile: mysteriousWillow50
mysteriousWillow50 on Apr 8, 2015
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It's perfectly acceptable to distance yourself from those that are toxic. Those that are 'toxic' people are only going to bring one down and they just harm you more than they help you. It's difficult to distance oneself-- I had to do this with my sibling and his wife actually-- but I rarely speak to them/spend time around them because the kind of people they are...they're just not-so-great...And small doses leaves me utterly exhausted. But with that, if you have to be around them, limit your time so that way you're not being dragged into a cesspool of negativity.
Profile: DeeLuna23
DeeLuna23 on May 22, 2015
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If you feel like you're feeling threatened then you have the right to remove yourself from the problem
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 2, 2015
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I would have to say yes. It may not seem normal but making distance can prevent bad events from happening. Try not to be too distant for too long or you may not be able to reunite yourself with them.
Profile: thedancerwithin
thedancerwithin on Dec 7, 2015
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Totally! However before you do that, you may want to try and repair the relationship with the help of a therapist (a reeeaal good one). Weigh your options and the pros and cons of distancing yourself from them so that you will be making an informed decision. Sometimes parents don't know that their actions are hurting you and it needs to be communicated in the right manner so that they won't feel attacked and in turn will listen to you.
Profile: Holdmyhand24
Holdmyhand24 on Sep 6, 2016
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No, thats not a solution. you cant just keep distance from your parents . they always worries about they care about you they want your good future. its better to sort it then taking such steps.
Profile: Randy1
Randy1 on Apr 4, 2015
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Yes, absolutely it is. Toxic relationships are never good, regardless of whether or not they are family. At the very least, consider setting firm boundaries. It is difficult to be involved in a toxic relationship if firm boundaries are in place and enforced.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 4, 2015
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Sometimes. But maybe sit down with them and talk to them, get to know them and think about why you feel the relationship has become toxic and if there's anyway they can see things from your perspective.
Profile: beautifulOcean
beautifulOcean on May 10, 2016
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It depends on your age. If you're a minor and don't have anywhere to go, you don't have much of a choice. But if you're not living in your house, have something to support yourself by, and are safe, then I consider it okay.
Profile: ZafarYounis
ZafarYounis on Jun 14, 2016
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Yes, of course, it is... Your first concern is your own mental health, not anyone else's, after all!
Profile: Greatlistener87
Greatlistener87 on Aug 16, 2016
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It is okay to have a distance between them yes. But do remember to still check on them from time to time. After all they are your parents.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 10, 2016
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Sometimes space is needed but not to the point you will sever ties with them. You can distance yourself to think over the things you want to tell them and make them understand.
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