Is it normal to not trust that you can open up to your family?

I think it can be normal to not trust to open up to your family if they use your information against you instead of helping you.

It's normal when your familial environment isn't a safe one. In a perfect world, our families are supposed to be our first example of social nourishment, but this is not always the case. It is important that we continue to surround ourselves with positive, loving people, even if they aren't related to you.

It's perfectly normal to not trust that you can open up to your family! There are a few reasons this could happen. One is that you could just not trust your family members to keep a secret, maybe because of some experience you've had in the past with them not fulfilling their duties to your privacy. Another could be that you want your family to see you as normal and therefore think that it would be bad to open up to them in fear of being perceived as weird and shunned by your family. A third reason might be that you are put under high expectations, and you think that changing your family's view of your personality could shatter those expectations and put you in a state of awkwardness so your family just thinks that you are strange. But in the end, you can definitely share your secrets with your family if you feel comfortable doing so. If you think they're untrustworthy, you could either confront them about it or just open up to someone else. You know the people in whom you can confide.

I think in the fairytale version of "normal" family's that it would be weird. But the truth is that Normal is actually dysfunctional and weird. Like my cousin was cooking once and his sister had chicken pox and she came down the stairs in her birthday suit scratching everywhere. I think that's weird, but that was normal for them. I think it's weird that some parents, children, and other family members kiss on the lips, but for some that's normal and spreading Herpes Labialis is no big deal to them. In my family, it was normal not to trust our father or mother or even our siblings. Our father was abusive and over reacted, our mother pretended that the conversations weren't happening, and us kids used info against one another to win over our fathers love. So really, you need to ask what defines "normal" for you or what you think "normal" should be. Because it's defined by what you go through, what is everyday for you or what you wish it was. Not everybody's version of "Normal" conforms to society.

It is normal to not trust that you can open up to your family, or a particular family member, especially if your family have proven they cannot, or should not, be trusted with your private matters. Sometimes it can be difficult to open up to your family, even when this is not the case. Just remember this: you are never obliged to open up to a family member if you don't feel you can trust them. Trust is earned! If you feel you can trust a teacher, a friend, or someone you look up to, then you could talk to them instead. Never let anyone pressure you into doing something you're not comfortable doing.

Yes. Every person is different and the way they respond is diffrent. It can be very difficult to trust someone that has provided information to others that you trusted them with. It can also be hard to trust someone who wasn't around you during times of need.

I personally think it is. Often circumstances make our family members seem more closed than they actually are. Sometimes there are issues they simply won't be able to understand on their own, your feelings during illness or your different point of view. But telling them will often erase a gap you feel, even if they don't agree with you completely they will know what you think/feel and you will know their stance.

No. I tell my family everything. They are supposed to be your rock. I guess not everyone has that closeness that I do, but family-like your mom or dad or siblings should never betray tht trust.

Yes,I think its normal because some things are ment to be kept secret or hard to tell to parents as their reaction can be opposite or one can feel embarassed.

Absolutely, you may feel that they will not have a predictable or positive response and feel nervous about the idea of bearing all. Sometimes it's easier to talk to a stranger rather than speak to those who you are so close with.