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Is it normal for parents to pick a favorite child among their children?

Profile: nancyb03
nancyb03 on May 14, 2015
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while i'm sure there there are some parents out there who feel they have a favorite, i think it's recognizing traits or personality differences in their children. though they're not "little adults" kids have their own thoughts and opinions. i see it with mine, and it's more obvious with my nieces. it's not about choosing a favorite, it's more about reacting and interacting differently with each child, as each one is going to require a different part of their parent.
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Profile: DaveC2016
DaveC2016 on Jun 4, 2015
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While, it is not recommended, it does happen. Both my parents have their favorite children, sadly, I ain't one, but I don't let it get to me. The reason I don't let it get to me is because I like the man in mirror and I am my own favorite.
Profile: AshleyLawrence
AshleyLawrence on Feb 18, 2015
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It is unfortunate, but not uncommon. Most of the time parents have noticed a major positive and will dwell on it or they notice a major negative and will try to fix it. You can only do so many things at once, so it may appear as favoritism. If you feel ignored by your parents, most likely they believe that you are smarter and self-efficient to the point where you don't need them as much. They pay less attention b/c they put attention where it is needed and there is only so much to go around. Perhaps ask one of your parents to spend some time doing something you know that you excel at. That way your strengths are also noticed.
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Anonymous on Aug 11, 2015
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I don't think it's a great thing, showing favor over one child hurts the other kids. But a parent has done it probably. Is it normal, not sure. But, do people do it, yes unfortunately
Profile: Emiliesks16
Emiliesks16 on Nov 3, 2015
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Sometimes parents will say or think they have a favorite child of theirs, but they obviously love all of their children equally
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Anonymous on Dec 1, 2015
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It's normal in some cases, but you are still loved dearly. Sometimes I believe parents need one specific child to focus on in a given time.
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Anonymous on Jan 4, 2016
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It is! There may be stronger bonds/ closer ties between a parent and a child due to shared interests or temperaments. There may have been unique circumstances surrounding that child's birth (think miracle baby!) that forge an matchless bond between parent and child. That doesn't necessary mean that they love this particular child more than the others!
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Anonymous on Jan 4, 2016
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It is never okay for a parent to have a favourite child ever!! That can lead to all different issues in the family
Profile: couragetogo
couragetogo on Mar 29, 2016
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Its a Taboo -Topic. No one admits it and no one talks about it. But it does happen - for various reasons. It's rather uncommon, because I think it's true when parents clarify that they love each of their children in a diffrent - yet all equal. If they favor one child I think of two reasons: If one child is easier to talk to (usually thats the one being compromised in favor of the more "problematic" one or if one is the shining star of the family. But with extra attention often comes extra pressure.
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Anonymous on Sep 5, 2016
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No, not is it wrong to pick a favorite child among your children it is also horrible for your children self esteem. and your children might end up hating each other
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