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is it normal and right for my parents to have so high expectations of me?

Profile: Senuboi
Senuboi on May 19, 2020
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Well, yes and no at the same time. Every parent expects the best out of his/her child. Why would a parent expect his or her own child to be not good at something. But what perhaps is wrong is to push these expectations aggressively onto the child. Not everyone can be good at everything. Sometimes somethings are just aren’t meant for us. What we can onnly do is try to meet our parent’s expectations the best we can. And if we are not able to, it is okay. Giving in 100% is what matters. Also, what my 100% effort is might differ from yours, so, never compare your own effort with someone else’s.
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Profile: Sanghee
Sanghee on Jun 16, 2020
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It's normal for parents to have really high expectations for you because they just want the best for you. Sometimes parents feel like they didn't achieve as much as they wanted to in their life and don't want you to feel that way as well, so for them; the sky is not your limit because there's outer space after that. Afterall there are footprints on the moon but you can always do your best and try your hardest in everything you do. Trust me, even if you feel that you didn't do to well on something, you feel way better knowing that you did your best. :)
Profile: cheerfulMango5536
cheerfulMango5536 on Sep 14, 2020
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Parents are, in most cases, going to want what they feel is best for you. If you do not feel like their beliefs and yours align, it's important to have an open conversation with them as to what your expectations are of yourself. It would also be good to set goals for yourself and share them with your parents, so that you can both see the progress you're making towards your goals, whatever they may be! In summation, it is normal for your parents to have high expectations for you, but along the way, it's also important for you to talk to them about what you want out of life and make sure their goals for you aren't overshadowing yours for yourself.
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