I'm living with a relative who poses a danger to me, but they are family and I love them, what should I do?

Speaking up is the right thing to do if you don't feel comfortable with someone or actions of a family member. If you consider them as your family than its no harm in sharing your feelings and saying no to something wrong.

I think this largely depends on your age and whether you are a dependent of that relative. If you are under 18 and you are truly in danger, it might be wise to reach out to CPS (Child Protective Services), a counselor at school, a teacher you trust at school, a social worker, another family member or family friend that is an adult that you trust, etc. These are people that are trained and have the know-how to protect you safely and in a professional manner. If the danger becomes so significant that it is threatening to your body, you have every right to call 911. It would be incredibly hard to do that to a family member, but you must remember that they are people that happen to be your family and make mistakes. No one is perfect. You must also evaluate how you think that family should act: should they be dangerous to you? Is that okay in a family? If not, do you think you should really feel they are family? It is okay to protect yourself from all danger. If you are over 18, talking with a psychologist, social worker, attorney, or family friend or relative that you trust are also good tactics. You also have the power to move out of the house and away from the person. You don't have to say that it is because they feel dangerous -- people move for lots of reasons. Be certain to put up boundaries to keep yourself safe. It is okay to make those boundaries very strong, even with family members that you love. Your love and relationship may be in fact much better and less dangerous if you put up those boundaries. Always remember that it is okay to seek professional or emergency assistance if necessary. Consider the questions I put up about family above. Those are really key to your decisions about not only how to protect yourself, but the extent to which you are willing to go to do so.

If you love them work on maybe going to a councilor, it may be hard but it will help you and them to have a better relationship.

Although they are family, call a health center for help. If your life is in danger don't hesitate to leave. By getting help for yourself and your relative you are helping the situation, and doing it out of love.

Seek professional help and alert both as well a person you trust outside your family and explain thoroughly what happend. If this person believe it's wise to go to the authorities with this, try to go together with that person.

It can be really difficult to report family because even after the damage that they've done, and how what they're doing is clearly wrong, you still forgive them because they're family? But maybe you are also forgiving them because you are scared of what might happen if you stand up to them? Will it make the rest of the family hate you for turning your back on family? But in the end wrong is wrong, no matter who is responsible, they don't deserve to get away with it, nor do you deserve to have to take it.

If you are in danger its better to find an alternative living arrangement no matter what.. Your safety should be your primary concern!

Inform some one, if you feel like you are in danger contact the police or speak to a family member -

Sounds like you are really reaching out for support to help you with such a difficult situation. Your safety is very important. Keeping yourself safe doesn't mean that you have to stop loving your family member.