I'm cheating on my husband or wife. Am I a bad person?

I've always been a huge believer that what you do does not define whether or not you are a bad person, it's how you feel afterwards. For example, you have clearly come here seeking help and advice because you have been cheating, which shows guilt, meaning you aren't a bad person, in my eyes. I think that the best thing to do is come clean to your other half, otherwise the guilt will eat you alive and it's not good for you. Don't blame yourself - these things happen, you cannot go back and change the past, the only thing left to do is deal with what has happened, and find a way to get past what has happened. Do you really want to be with your other half? Because cheating on him/her is obviously a huge sign that you don't, and that maybe there's another person you want to be with. Although you took your vows and promised a life with this person, it doesn't always work out. In fact, most marriages end in divorce, these days. You could have gone about it a different way (whatever problem is going on in your marriage), yes, but that doesn't make you a bad person. Don't be so hard on yourself.

No, you are not a bad person, but you are making bad choices for your relationship, home, and family.

There is more to a person than just being good or bad. Cheating, while certainly not a good thing in a relationship, does not make you a bad person. Cheating means you're making and have made mistakes and choosing to reconcile those mistakes does not make them go away; but, could help you feel less bad about the decisions.

You're not a bad person, you're just making a decision. Your decision is to cheat on your husband or wife. It's your choice.

It's betraying the trust of your spouse to be cheating on them. Imagine how they would feel if they were to find out that you are cheating. Always put yourself in their shoes, what if they were cheating with someone on you.

Sorta, but not really. Don't continue this.........................................................

You're cheating? You should confess to him/her. You and your husband/wife should seek professional marriage counseling.

No you are not a bad person, just a bad mistake.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Cheating does not make you a bad person. Cheating make you a cheater. Think about it. You married your husband and/or wife with the intent to be with your spouse for the rest of your life. Your vows says it all. Running away from your problems by cheating won't benefit you or your spouse in any way. Sitting down with your spouse and have a heart to heart conversation on what is bothering you about and in your relationship might solve many problems. Always remember that before you cheat on your partner try to come to a solution for a better relationship. Communication is key. If that fails maybe you can go to the next step.

You're not necessarily a bad person, but what you're doing is not giving consideration to how they might feel. Even good people can do bad things.