I was molested by uncle at 13. Family didn’t believe me. Now 41 and estranged. They want back in my life while having him very much in there’s. What should I do?

If your family are important to you, you can try and set some boundaries with them regarding this uncle. For example, ask if the uncle will be present at any events etc that you have been asked to attend and then decide if you want to attend also. The worst thing to do is ask them to take sides in this situation. Eventually, his behaviour will become evident and they will address him accordingly. A concern that I would definitely have is does he have contact with young children either within the family or outside the family. If so, it is really important to highlight your experience as much as possible and indicate you are fearful for the other children, etc. Children are innocent and should be treated accordingly. They shouldn't be put into any situation where harm may occur to them. They are not old enough to stand up for themselves and sometimes do not even know this is inappropriate behaviour. The behaviour needs to be stopped immediately. If not by you, then by a senior member of the family.