I hate my husband or wife. Why?

I would do some self reflection and maybe consider what is going on around the relationship. Do you feel disconnected? Do you feel unheard? Do you feel disrespected? Do you not trust your partner? What is the reasoning behind the hate. Hate is a strong word and a strong emotion that means you still care for them. Are you able to discuss your feelings in a safe environment? Do you feel acknowledge when you express yourself? Do they not support your dreams, goals and aspirations? Are your values no longer aligned? These can all be factors that have led to the discourse between you. Take some time to figure out what is going on and allow yourself the ability to look at your relationship from their eyes. If your partner is threatening you, your life or your wellbeing, consider leaving the relationship, you are in an abusive environment. Your safety comes first. If your safety isn't in quuestion, maybe consider seeing a couples therapist or counselor if you can afford it.