I hate my husband or wife. Why?

Hmm, we like people if they show traits and behaviours similar to us and on the contrary, we dislike people who exhibit actions opposite to ours. It could also mean that you expected few actions and did not receive them from your partner when you wanted them the most. Once we know what were we expecting from our spouse we can then think of it as was rational or not? If it was rational, then the most prudent idea is to convey it politely so it does not induce rage and if it was not a display of prudence from our end, we need to change our belief.

connections are never simple and indeed the most grounded relational unions can drop prey to misery. those butterflies in your stomach can turn into a never-ending pit of uneasiness, sullying each interaction you have got together with your husband/wife. some time recently you know it, you’re persuaded that this burning feeling you've got towards your husband/wife is now not adore but despise. most of the time, they don’t continuously get it how something so unadulterated can turn into something so derisive. but learning to abhor your husband/wife, much like falling in cherish, is established on past intelligent, deliberateness or otherwise. 1) there's nothing new in your lives anymore. 2) the relationship doesn't feel equal. 3) you've forgotten the meaning of compromise. 4) respect doesn't go both ways. 5) he/she stopped taking care of himself/herself. 6) you're a narcissist who prioritizes him/herself over everything else. 7) you have big differences you've never addressed. 8) you've been stressed over everything for way too long. 9) you have a dysfunctional idea of what a marriage should be. 10) he/she hurt you in a big way you just cannot forgive. 11) he/she hurts you in any ways without knowing it. 12) he/she's dealing w/ an addiction & doesn't know how to handle it or doesn't try to fix. 13) you feel like he/she's held back your true potential.

Being married can make us feel we see that person 24/7 we sometimes feel that we get into a routine which can become boring and feel like they don't do anything to make us feel special anymore that's why we sometimes feel that we hate the person we are married to because marriage is a bond which makes us stay together and makes walking away harder than just being in a relationship through the good and the bad we are still married and support each other thus it's not like a relationship where we can just leave when we feel like it isn't for us anymore it takes work, communication, patience and understanding but it's beautiful ❤️. We just need to find that happiness and beauty again and the hate will lessen as we do what made us happy and which made us choose our partner in the first place.

I think this is something that only you will be able to answer. If you hate them, then you probably have a good reason for hating them. I would suggest that you do a lot of self-reflection - journaling, working through your feelings, etc. Think about the entirety of your relationship, and ask yourself why you would be experiencing those feelings, without judgment. I think if you are honest with yourself, you should be able to get to the bottom of your feelings fairly quickly. I wish the best for you on your journey of self exploration into your feelings.

I used to hate my ex after we ended our relationship, however, as time flies, and I became more mature, I thought about all the good things that we accomplished together, sometimes, not only looking at the bad things but let's think about the positive thinks that we do to think more optimistically. Hatred will only bring us down, preventing us from being successful, but being optimistic will make us become the new person, think positively, and be more open-minded will make everything become easier. Let's think positive about life, invest in ourself, buying us new clothes, eating our favorite meals, it could make our day!

Just as it happens with any other person, the more you know them the more you see all their positive qualities, but you also see the negatives and their mistakes. If you have been married for a while you for sure have noticed the flaws of your partner, but since we all have flawns too we accept them. Sometimes when we are under stress, or we have a big disagreement with our partner we can tend to focus on all the flaws at the same time, that can increase the feeling of disliking someone. So if you are experiencing something like this, try to remember the good qualities that attracted you to that person, the good time you spent together. On the other hand try to decrease your levels of stress, maybe start something new like a hobby, or it could be just taking walks. It will allow you to relax and have some time away from your partner so you don't keep overthinking all these negative feelings.

That is a question best answered not by a stranger, but chances are, either they have disrespected your boundaries, or you did not set them. Whether they're safe to state boundaries with or not, it still falls under one of those categories. So much of the frustration in relationships lie in a mismatch of one person's needs and the other's deeds. Sometimes, the other person's deeds don't fulfill your needs because they don't know those are your needs. Not everyone needs your needs. That doesn't mean you don't deserve to have them met, just that that person might not know you need them or that anyone needs them. Do not assume such things are universal or common sense. On the other hand, if you have set your boundaries and they continue to violate them, the next step is to figure out why. Is it difficult for them to do whatever it is that means they respect those boundaries? If not, do they just not believe it's a need?

Sometimes feelings are complicated. Hate is a strong word so make sure you actually hate them. The signs of hate are "Feel envy or want what the other person has, they may consider it unfair that someone has what they lack, have contempt for another person or believe them to be inferior, learn hatred from parents, their community, or other social groups, are humiliated or mistreated by another person." If you for sure hate your partner then it could be from bast experiences or something that they did to you and you don't remember so you subconscious makes you hate them

You do not love them. Period. Or you have fallen out of love. Not liking your partner is okay in marriage from time to time. but hating them is a big NO. It is not okay at all. You are in a marriage. You shouldn't be in a (healthy) marriage if not for love. You should communicate and see what is the problem. There is couple's therapy. Journal. These are the basic things to do. Also there is a pretty fair chance that you could be disliking your partner. DISLIKE not hate. People interchange the words. We dislike the people we love from time to time. It is natural. We are humans. They are humans. We aren't flawless.

Sometimes we hate those closest to us. Sometimes we love them, sometimes we hate them. Sometimes we love and hate them, all at the same time. It is with love that there is hate, I believe. Maybe you have boundaries you did not set, and you felt your husband or wife did not meet your expectations, which they might or might not know of. I do not yet have a spouse, but I do have family. More often than not, I come to hate the person because of some misunderstandings, or because of a shared negative emotional experience based on blame or resentment.