I hate my husband or wife. Why?

Is it really hate or is it dislike? Make sure to know which one. It could be that things have changed in the marriage. You may be unhappy. Talk to your spouse. It will only get worse if you bottle any issues up and if you can try counseling as a couple and individually if needed. Nothing will change if you don’t try to change them. If at some point nothing works, at least you both tried.

just because they are your husband or wife does not mean they are the one for you, people change after years and years, it’s okay to want a change yourself

Your marriage isn't a fairy-tail, because life isn't one either. Your marriage is a blessing, not a curse. Don't be afraid to fall back in love. You'll never know what you've got until it's gone. If you've been hurt though, understand that there are people that are better than them. You deserve to be happy. If you're married, I'll tell you one thing: my wife is a blessing. But I wouldn't expect her to stay with me if I was abusive. I love her, you can find that too. There's a wonderful world out there. Please don't give up girls. God loves all, but I think he loves cowgirls more than any.

Sometimes love fades. Remember, marriage was invented when the average life length was like 40 years. People didn't stay with the same person for longer than 30 years. So it's not unusual for you to stop loving someone you spend every day of your life with. Many people also start hating their husband/wife... It is not unusual. How many times haven't you heard a reference to hating your ex in a movie? When the love it gone and you are still "forced" to spend every second of your free time in the same house, obviously you would get irritated. But you also might not hate them. It could simply be a reaction to not loving them anymore.

Hate is a strong feeling but it may well be how you feel. If you had to choose another word, which will it be? Once you can identify your feeling further, can you think when it started? When was the last time you didn’t feel that way? Has this feeling become worse overtime? I am asking those questions because only you know the answer. As you try to answer those questions you will slowly identify the reason for your feeling. To feel that way about a person could be because of what has person said or done , but sometimes it is because of our own issues that we direct to another to protect ourself. So I cannot tell you why you hate your spouse, the answer is in you. In my case it was the feeling of being dependent on my spouse financially. The fact you are asking the question shows me you have made a the first step of identifying a feeling that you do not want. It shows me you will find your answer. However If you do feel unsafe with your spouse i urge you to reach for help. I hope you will find your answer and will take the steps to stop that feeling . It is an emotionally draining situation to hate the person we live with. So ne kind to yourself and use any help you can get and any relaxing time you can afford. I wish you to feel better soon.

Most of the time, when you feel like you hate your spouse, you may actually be feeling something else (hurt, disappointment, or rejection, for example) but aren’t identifying it correctly. Once you realize the root of the emotion, it's easier to fix. So, let's say you're thinking: “I hate you! You’re such a slob!” What you may actually be feeling is disappointment that he isn't pulling his weight with the chores. To fix it, try saying: “I would love for all the dirty clothes to be in the laundry basket.” (See how we avoided any negativity?) Then, let him know why you’d like that change. For example, “I would feel a lot less resentful and would be less cranky if you’d help remove that obstacle from my day." Insight into where the root of the hate comes from will help you make changes for a more fulfilling relationship.

This is a very common adults face in their marriage. Often, people will date and have a happy relationship but once they get married and their lives become intertwined, they sometimes find out that their relationship isn't the same anymore. The reasons for this are complex and vary from couple to couple, but it's often the lack of compatible traits between each other that leads to an unhappy marriage. It takes a lot of continuous work and commitment for a marriage to function. For some people, this comes naturally and they enjoy being around their partner. For others, it's not so easy. Often, it's one individual who works harder in the relationship. This leads to resentment and if not addressed properly, will lead to the couple hating each other.

Why did you say that? Is it because of the daily routine? Or you need time for yourself? You have to decide. I think you need to talk to your partner about that. Tell them how you feel. And see what happens. Sometimes the routine and the parenthood does that. Try to find new ways to make your marriage more interesting. Why don’t you travel together? Have more experiences with each other. It’s another thing if you didn’t marry them by love. Or you were forced for this marriage. But if you failed then you can be separated without problems.

Feeling like you have a strong emotion such as hate is often a common emotion in relationships from time to time. If that strong emotion is interfering with your ability to parent , keep a job or perform as well as your have in the past then you should seek out a therapist or confide in a medical professional and ask for guidance. If your spouse has done something directly to you to make you feel this way then you may have to reconsider your relationship and your reasons for staying in the relationship. Hate is a strong word that people use when they are frustrated or upset. But you need to get to the bottom of why you feel this way with a professional mental health person

Hate is a really strong word. You should think about the past experiences you have had together - have there been any recent events that cause you to feel this way? Think of how both of you have changed as people? Think about when you first fell in love with them and what you have learned about your husband/wife since then. I think that it is important to know whether you really do hate them or if this is just a temporary feeling or frustration or disappointment at a recent event that occurred where they may not have met your expectations.