I hate my husband or wife. Why?

A lot of times we marry someone who has a lot of charaqcteristics of one of our parents. We are replicating a relationship we are used to and in somer way also trying to heal ourselves by creating again the situations that wounded us and hoping we can overcome it. Just as our parents push our buttonns and made us feel strong emotions and even hate so too our spouses arouse ths same emotions in us and a times we hate them

It might not be hate your feeling. Sometimes when people are together for a long time in a living situation or just a relationship, they grow to resent them and pick out all their flaws because they know them too well and have been around them for too long. You should sift through this and find out if it really is hate or just a mess of emotions you've never really confronted.

Workaholic, disrespects woman/man, rude, miser/greedy, dowry, false allegations, playboy, unfaithful, cheater, selfish

you may not be in love with her or him anymore, you may have stopped having sexual attractions to him or her?

Is it because they are abusive towards you? Or something in particular they did that made you upset?

Talk to them about it, it may actually help you. Because they might never know and then you divorce them and they be like: Whaaa?

Usually it's because of something you have done and feel guilty about and are projecting it onto them, or they have done something that has hurt you and you feel you can't forgive them for it, or you just no longer love them but don't want to leave them so hate them because of the situation you are in. Usually it's emotional or situational between the two of you. Communication often helps or if you feel it's right, leaving can help.

You might hate them because they might have mistreated you or they are too busy and not paying enough attention to you. Try to get them to be more active or talk to them.

Listen, lack of communication may be why you Two are "disconnected" try speaking to eachother, respect eachother opinions and emotions and try to come up with a compromise.

I'm not in your shoes, so I don't know why, but you should try to figure out the reason why you feel that way. Did they abuse you? Did something which upset you? How long have you felt this way? Did you tell them?