I am adopted and want to find my birth mother, my mom seems very uneasy about my wanting to do this. How can I ease her worries and still ty to do this?

I would suggest talking to her. Reassure her that you love her and that you aren't trying to replace her, but just find where you came from. Explain to her why you want to find your birth mother and what it will do for you. Listen to her and ask why she might be uneasy about it. I'm sure if she sees how much it means to you, she might offer to help you.

When I was looking for my birth mother, both my mom and dad were very uneasy. I assured them by talking to them about others success and how it helped them grow as people and it felt like a lift off their chest. Explain to your mom that you are just looking for assurance and closure. Best of luck!!

Tell her that she can come with you you if you ever find your birth mother, and assure your mother that no matter what happens she is always your mother. She is most likely afraid that she might loose you if you find your birth mother which is understandable.

Ask her to come with you to see your birth mother. If they haven't told you why they're worried or there is no real reason that you can see as to why they might be worried, there could be something they're not telling you that perhaps you shouldn't know. There's a reason people are adopted. They don't give children up for adoption for no reason and definitely not for something as simple as forgetting to do your homework. You could go to your local social services and ask to see your records. They will have everything about you and as long as you're over the age of 16, you will have no problem seeing your records without your parents consent. You will need to read your records at the social services before they will give you a copy to take home. You could phone your local social services office and ask for your social services files to which they would need to look out, print and arrange a date for you to come in which would take a week or so. Probably longer. I say this because you're better off knowing what happened and why before you go to meet the person so that you can make an informed decision and to know the truth. That way, you'll get less lies in case they try to turn you against your adopted parents too. Not saying they will but it is a possibility. I hope you find what you're looking for and I wish you luck.

It's natural to be curious about your birth mother. You should sit down with your mother and explain the reasons why you want to know about your birth mother and what you hope to gain by finding out this information. Also, you should try to understand her reasons for being hesitant at researching your birth mother, ask why she's uneasy. Researching your birth mother is a stressful topic for her as well. Be sure to ask what information she knows regarding your birth mother and your adoption as a starting point. Try to keep her actively involved as you research your birth mother, as long as she feels comfortable with it.

Hi! Well, in my opinion you should explain her how important is this to you! If she still opposes to the idea, you could go to the hospital and ask for your birth documents. Good luck :)

Remind her that you still love her and your not wanting to replace her. Her main worries are proboably that you won't be happy with her anymore and that meeting your birthmother might stir up emotions for you.

It's inly natural for your mom to feel this way. She may have this uneasy feeling simply because she doesn't want you to get hurt or she doesn't want you to forget about her once/if you do find your birth mom. Either way she is feeling this way because she loves you and she cares about you and probably wants things to stay the same between you two. I'm not really sure how you can make her feel of ease when it comes to something like this, but you can try having a conversation with her to assure her that you won't forget about her and that your relationship will remain the same and even though you want to go through with the decision to fine the woman that gave birth to you that she will always be your mother.

I think you should tell your mom how you feel. That you would love to find your birth mom but doing so would not affect the love you have towards her.

it's completely normal for you to want to find your birth mother, but i can also understand why your mom's very uneasy about that. she's afraid for you, she doesn't want you to get hurt or forget about her when you meet your birth mother. you can talk to her about the reason why you want to find your biological mother, she'll understand. tell her, that she'll always be your mom, that you'll never leave her. you can ask for her help and involved her in your search to find your birth mother. don't forget to remind her that you love her everyday. hope it'll help :)