How to stop hating your mother in law?

Try to think of the good and innocent reason that your mother might be doing what she is doing. Empathy solves a lot of problems.

Truth beauty love. A mother-in-law is a person, so this advice is good for getting over 'hating' a person you will see now and then. Ask yourself: what is at the root of your hate of this person? Be honest with yourself about it, and then be honest about it with the person. Calmly say to them: "I'm upset that you ___. Can we talk about this?" Communication and honesty are the keys to everything. Really try to give this conversation an adult try. If that conversation doesn't help to resolve the tension between you and the person, then tolerance is your new game. If your loved one wants this person in their life and you love them, you will have to accept that they'll be there. You don't need to like someone to tolerate them, just be pleasant.

Try to see if there are things that you two have in common with each other, spend time with one another, break down each other's walls. I used to hate the mother in law, but the more time spent, the easier it got. Show them that you're not bothered. In some cases, this can't work as it takes two people, but if the mother for example is always passive aggressive toward you, then that's unhealthy, and I would talk to your partner about it.

Try to think of a list of good things about her and focus on them. It can be simple things, like I like the way she cleans her house, or whatever.

It depends on situations. If possible try to forgive and ignore her. If stubborn or is affecting your relationship then just forget to expect anything and just be busy with yourself

This is a normal feeling for most people. I overcame it when I started treating my mother in law like a friend and not a mother in law.

Let's think she is your own mother, all she does just want her child be good and happiness. And sometime maybe she needs her child to take care of her and be patient with her.

To stop hating your mother I law you can do something with them. Or just spend some time bonding. For example, go to a restaurant

Stop taking her personally. Realise she has her own history and insecurities that might affect her behaviour.

First come to terms that as long as she's alive and you stay with your spouse, she's going to be a part of your life. Secondly, try to find something - anything - good about her that you like and try to make that your focus.