How to stop hating your mother in law?

Just think she is your mother. And love her. Try to understand her in empathetic way. You will Feel closer to her.

Reflect on why you hate her in the first place. You may just misunderstand her. If she treats you or her daughter poorly, try doing the exact opposite to her. Kindness is infectious. Small to medium gestures of love and kindness tend to open people up and in turn they start to act in a similar way. We teach people how to treat us, so slowly breaking down that wall is a great way to start.

Figure out what's making you hate her and sit down with her and talk about it... if she's not the talking kind, go ahead and buy her a present.. I know you're the one hating her now, but getting her a gift and being nice to her will make her show the best in her (logically we all have a good and bed side, we just choose what to show to who) so just take the initiative.

Think and reflect on the relationship you have with the MIL and understand yourself first what makes you feel hatred towards her?. Depending on the reason make a decision whether or not you want to continue having a toxic feeling towards her or if there is something you can do to change the way you feel. Talk to her and express your feelings. Think about the good memories and positives before you started hating her. Forgive and forget and learn to move on as life is too short to hold grudges and it’s less work loving someone than it is creating hatred and doing so will make you feel worse and give you negative vibes!

I think you should spend more time with her and get to know her personally and how she is as a person

By keeping healthy boundaries and putting aside intrusive thoughts. Respect her as she is, and do not dive into discussions that would risk to bring up more hatred to the surface, and on top of that be PATIENT! I know it may be hard to keep our cool in some situations; especially when the mother in law is mean. Maybe looking at her qualities would help hating her less? In reality, looking at someone's qualities helps a lot appreciating them more. If we want to stop hating someone, we need first to understand why we hate them? Answering that question would probably help even though it seems simple.

Well, I would say first try to have a forgiving heart and try to treat all adults with respect regardless what they say or do to you. After that I would say try to be nice to her and try to remain open to new ways of communicating and new ways of approaching a person with a bad spirit. With love in your heart you will eventually be able to pull her over to your side and if all this fails just have a come to Jesus sit down with your mother - in - law and tell her that she is causing problems in your home and that you do not appreciate it and if she can not respect you in your home or around your husband. It might be best that she stay away from your family. Until she can become a much better person with a positive out look on life.

It's the same with everyone else really. Doesn't matter the title, that is. Mother in law, or whatever else mother she might be :D Hate is the keyword, and that feeling happens within you. It's not "coming" from her. You actually build it yourself. Not You yourself per se, but your subconscious does it. According to your truths, and beliefs. But what is hate? Why hate? As i see it, hate comes after we try to bully the Laws. (maybe it's the irony of the law :D, to use the mother in law for this :D) We don't know the rules of this place, We think we are powerful, that we can bend the laws, We try to be "free" (that is, whatever i want has to happen, because i'm the boss or whatever) Then the universe responds, or the Law responds. Like: "sorry, pal, but if you want a ferrari, you need to pay more than 10$" :D Then hate. Hate never comes first, it's just the shadow of wanting to control whatever you don't control. And usually people start creating hate because the price, usually. They expect a price (or a situation, that costs a certain price), and that doesnt happen, and hate buildup starts. The best action, when hate happens, is to bring in the antidote. That is, calm. Calm eliminates hate. Calm also brings in the best state to cooperate with the universe (that is, paying the right prices for everything that we want)

Try knowing or talking with her about anything. Just be kind and smile to her will also help. Rather than hating, find a reason for you to stop hating her might be help :) Try finding her good traits like “she’s a good cook” “she is nice to me” and something like that. Also, it’s okay to hate if you have the reason but not okay if you just hate her with unreasonable reason. Try be kind and understand her too. Or put yourself on her shoes, what would you feel if someone hate you. Let’s do this! Cheer up fam

First you must ask yourself why you feel that you hate her. When you have those reasons figured out, ask yourself what you think is so bad about those reasons and if it's something that you and her can compromise over. Have you spoke to her or asked exactly why she is doing the things that make you hate her? If you have and it hasn't turned out well you can always try a different approach with being very kind to her. Kindness makes things change for the better in some situations like this. If you haven't spoken to her, what's holding you back?