How to stop hating your mother?

Even though your mother may have done something really bad to you, you have to remember that she is human as well. She makes mistakes like all of us and bringing up a child is not an easy task. So you have to learn to forgive for the sake of both of you. Of course she is at fault for things but depending on whether she tries to improve things or not you can make a decision on whether the relationship is good for you to keep with adjustment or if you have to walk away.

You can stop hating your mother by seeing all the things she has provided for you and how hard she works every day and night and how much love she has given you.

Is there something from your past with her that has not been resolved? It may be necessary to think about this and possibly confront her. Maybe you need an apology. Maybe you need an explanation. Whatever it is, you deserve it - and she deserves to have a chance to talk with you about it.

You may very well have a right to hate her. But you can also choose to respect her for bringing you into the world, acknowledge her position as your mother (regardless of what kind of mother she may have been), and stop there. This doesn't mean you need to like her or interact with her. It's your life, and if you feel it would be better to distance yourself, it shouldn't be her decision to make.

This doesn't only apply to mothers, but I believe the best way to stop hating anyone is just to realize that your hate isn't serving any purpose and that it's just a waste of your energy. In the end you're only damaging yourself by being spiteful towards others.

I don't know your mother, but for me, it helped to look at her history. My mom has gone through a lot, and it helped me appreciate her. Maybe this can work for you?

Take a step back and see why you hate her. Analyse the root of the issue. Then judge whether it's okay to hate her or not. The rest will follow.

Learn to let go of the feelings you attach to her behaviours and try to understand why she behaves that way. Practice compassion towards her where possible

Think of all the things she has done for you, from going through the pain of giving birth to you to providing for you, Once upon a time, you loved your mother.

Having strong feelings of dislike to a family member is completely fine. If distancing yourself from her is going to help YOU, then by all means don't stop yourself. Don't put yourself through forgiving someone who doesn't deserve to be forgiven.