How to stop hating your mother?

How do you even hate your mother? If you are a rebellious teenager, nothing can stop you back from the hate factor. Anything mom says sounds anti. If you really wanna stop hating your mother, put yourself in your mother's shoes. Pause for a moment to think of all the good your mom does for you. She cares for you and loves you. In fact, she is only person who can be trusted. Do not wait to love your mom till you realise it is too late. Lot of effort goes into being a mother. Only if you become a parent, would it occur to you.

hate is a strong word. Very strong word. And this question really depends on the situation. But before you go and say you hate your mom think about this. “Is hate the word your really looking for?” Or “what is causing you to feel this way?” Because yes all though you say you may hate her, your anger takes over. And all your emotions feel helpless and leave no room for your common sense to fit in. And if you feel like you have no way in knowing how to stop feeling this way. You first need to figure out what is causing you this pain. And what you are willing to do to fix it all for yourself and your moms relationship. It’s all up to you.

I have at times struggled with my relationship. But when we started talking about what was really upsetting us both we agreed to try and help the other and it helped to mend our relationship. Baby steps are a good thing and although it might seem out of reach at the moment, you have the power and strength to mend your relationship. People often don’t get along with their parents but fixing that is the way to move forward. Hate is a very strong word and so to stop hating someone is something very difficult to do. But identifying your exact feeling may prove useful

Difficult question. I think first you need to ask yourself why do you hate your mother. What did she do? What did she say? If you cannot answer, you are on the wrong path. If there is not serious issue, try to let go your hate and anger. For example, breath in and out, try to focus on something positive about your mother. Like she is kind, she made something good to you etc. If there is something, something serious and understandable reason, you could write it down first. Your thoughts, your problems about her, then show the paper her and talk about your feelings. The communication is the key. Maybe she will understand it, moreover she might try to find a solution. The hate doesn't lead anywhere, you need to know it.

The feeling of hate doesn’t appear out of thin air. You should look deeper into the feeling and find the source of it. Why do you hate your mother? What provoked and created this feeling towards her? Once you find the source you can try to find a way to stop it. If it’s something that she does to you that you don’t like, maybe you could talk to her about it and you could both try to fix it. I don’t know your situation that well so I don’t know which is the best option for you. But I do know that hating someone for no apparent reason doesn’t exist, there’s always a reason for your hate, maybe you should look deeper into it so that you could find a way to fix it.

From my experience, first thing to do is to forgive them. Try to forgive whatever she has done to you in the past. It can be hard, but after that you'll feel more relieve. The second one is to think about all the good things she has done for you, think about all the happy memories you have with her. That way, slowly you'll start to love your mother again. And the third one is to do some self-introspection. Like, have you done something that really pissed her off? If yes, then think about it. If she doesn't hate you because of it, then why are you hating her?

I understand this can be really frustrating, but she is your mother after all. I know deep inside you love her and she loves you. If you want to stop hating your mother, try to approach her and change your behavior towards you. Maybe be a bit nicer with her and help her around with the chores. She will change her behavior towards you as well. Moreover, try to spend some quality time with her and do activities that you both enjoy. For example, go for a walk, watch a movie etc! Give her a chance and if you feel upset while she is around, try to calm yourself by taking deep breaths.

Almost everyone has said it at one time or another, "I hate my mother," or "I cannot stand my mom." In fact, those who say this rarely mean what they say and they are usually just mad at the time. However, some people really do hate their mother, and usually have good reason. Hatred of one's mother can begin at different stages of life. It can happen during childhood, adolescence, or adulthood. There is a common misconception that hatred of one's mother is something which always initiates during childhood. Granted, there are many cases and scenarios where people who have grown to hate their mothers began doing so when they were young children or teenagers. However, there are other situations where hatred towards mothers began in adulthood. More often, the latter cases occur due to actions or behavioral patterns. There is no one answer, but there are a plethora of variables and contributing factors.

Mother's are a very important part of life and society. Without them, we wouldn't exist. I understand what it's like to be upset with your mother. It's a sad place to be. The person who brought you into this world did something that you are so angry at them for. I'm sorry you are in this position right now, and while I can't give you any advice, I can say this; only you know when it is the right time to forgive someone. No one can tell you when that is. I can't tell you how to stop hating someone, because you have to do that yourself. I can't do it for you, though I wish I could help you more than I am able to now.

This one really hits home, so I'm going to give you my honest answer and do it anonymously. The way I've learned to stop hating my mother is realizing that the way she behaves toward me is the result of previous traumas and experiences that she went through in her life. I know some of these experiences, and there might be more. I learned that I cannot change her. So while I've tried to offer options to help her, they don't work out because she hasn't made the decision to change yet. Until she does, all I can do is help her bit by bit OR simply not be a negative force in her life (e.g. by keeping my distance). I've learned to become aware of when I am feeling triggered by her and I do my best to mindfully create some distance until I can handle her again. There's a philosopher who once proposed we treat people like facts. People don't change much. So it might help to learn to accept your mother however she presents herself and try to only be with her when you're certain you'll be okay. EDIT: If you are willing to make changes in your own mind, I'd encourage you to find a therapist you can relate to and talk to them about what happened between you and your mother. By doing this, you might learn something about yourself and/or your mother which could improve your relationship.