How to stop hating your mother?

It is important to first understand why you have the feelings you do. Next step is to try to talk and understand each other. My favorite quote is "there are some things you can't communicate unless you clash". Sometimes people wont agree with you and vise versa, but if you want to express something, it may take all you've got. Ignoring your feelings wont help. Trying to understand the relationship is important, but then you need to make a plan. What needs to be done in order to make the relationship you want. Talk sessions? If so, it's worth it. Family is very important. Once you know why you dislike your parent, talk to them, or a trusted person. Try to understand why they are they way they are, it will make you feel better to know why. Talking is the key to a better relationship, especially because parents don't go away.

Take things less personal, agree to what sounds sensible. Always remember if she starts talking about my own good it’s probably something worth listening to.

you can. you can hate someone who hurts you, ignores you, abandons you. but if you want to stop hating her, you have to understand her point of view. you have to accept that there might have been an outsider element you didn't consider

Learn to try and forgive her for the things she has done. Address them with her and let her know the situation. Hopefully a compromise will be reached.

Have a deep conversation with her and let her know how you have been feeling, there are always 2 sides to the story, you just have to be willing enough to listen to someone elses

Relationships with parents can be hard whether they hurt you or don’t agree with you. I have a bad relationship with my mom currently, and it doesn’t seem to make my life any better. I just try to understand that my mom loves me and she cares about me. It gives me a feeling of forgiveness.

I think that all hatred can be lowered with the same tools. No matter if its your mother or not. Sometimes we hate because we take things personal, and sometimes we also feel like it is part of ourselves the way that the other person is acting. I think that if we are able to detached from that thought and think that for whatever reasons this person is behaving in a certain way. For example you can think this is how she was thought to be or to act. Right now this person is doing the best they can with the history that they cary with, and the tools that this person have. By this you are making the decision of letting go of all the guilt and all that makes this person's behavior (on this case your mom) not your responsibility. You also become aware that there are many sides to each story and if they are acting a certain way it is because of all the history, all of their beliefs and they are doing what they can. You become more comprehensive instead of judging.

Try to talk to her and realize she is doing the best she can and loves you.We are all human and make mistakes.Try to be forgiving and don't judge.Find some things you have in common that you can talk about and activities you enjoy together to try to build a closer bond.

There's no easy answer or way. It takes a lot of communication to understand the core reason why the hatred. By understanding comes acceptance then hopefully forgiveness. It takes both side commitment to move forward if one side not showing the enthusiasm to solve the issues nothing can be done but at least we can be relief ourselves from hatred and start loving again. The issues will not be resolved overnight same as the hatred does not come overnight. Everything takes time. Be patient.

Put yourself in her shoes and see. Parnting is hard and every parent gives their best. She only wants what is best for you.