How to stop hating your mother?

Analyze the 'hate' you have for your mother. When did it started and why? I did this, and I realized that I changed in a bad way. I was very stubborn against my mother, didn't listen to her anymore. All I cared about was being with my boyfriend. She didn't know me like this, so she started to act more difficult. This encouraged me to hate her more. When I came home from school or my boyfriend, I instantly went to my room and didn't speak to her. When my best friend ended up in a psychiatric institution, I didn't know how to act anymore, I couldn't cope with it. I felt so alone at school, my support was gone. I didn't hear much from her because she had some difficulties, too. She had to get over them. My mom realized that it affected me and we've talked for hours. This talk helped us both! Everything from the past was cleared up. The only advice I can give to you to stop hating your mother: try to start a conversation about how you feel, and how she feels! Try to clear up everything, and take a fresh start from there. Hope I've helped you a little bit :)

If you are a Christian (like myself) the answer is easy: The Bible claims to "honor thy mother and thy father." Your mother gave birth to you... And you both only get this one chance called life. Death is a mystery... But are you really willing to risk time with your birth mother over something that has happened over the past? Life is too precious for negativity and anger. Regret may be the replacement if something was to happen to your mother and it is come to be that it is too late to make amends.

I dont know how not to hate my mom.She lies and abuse us mentally,she likes attention and that’s not a bad thing but how she wants it is bad.she drinks pills to commit “suicide”but she drinks just enough not to die...the one time she hitted my dad and day she did that I lost my respect for her...my mom behaves like a child and she’s the whole time on her phone...she’s also fake

Acknowledge that although she may not be the best mother, she struggled to give you life. She has her own life issues too, like anyone else. What she said now, may be a product of her past sufferings. See if there is anyway you can help her attain peace. If not, keep focus on the goal of improving yourself, so that one day you may be free of her negative influence.

If you want to forgive your mother, you should think about the things she has done to cause you to hate her and the impact it has had on your life. Now accept it and accept that she is flawed. Look for the good in her, what has she done right and what was the intent that she had in doing wrong.. Realize that we are all human and we all mess up. Forgive her and forgive yourself for hating her. Let it go.

talk to her try to understand each other there might be things you never knew about she might need the extra help in order to become a better person

Talk to her about your feelings and why you feel that. y'all can find out what can make it better :)

let's say you hate your mother, placing the blame for your problems on her i would assume is normal. sometimes your mother says things that trigger negative emotions. if you keep going you realize you love your mom because she is the closest person who just wants you to figure out how to make you better, fights happen with your mom because she knows you better than anyone else in world. you only have one mom so hating her is a feeling in your brain that you have to adjust and rethink your thoughts.

it depends on the reasons, but fundamentally looking at why she made whatever choices she made, 2hat she might be going through and try to understand her perspective. might cast some clarity on your relationship.

Sometimes it can be difficult to get on with your mother as you can often feel misunderstood or you feel like you are being controlled. The best way forward is very often having an open conversation with your mum, tell her what it is that is bothering you. Don't do it in an accusing or hostile way however, simply sit down with her and tell her how you feel for example "when you say (this) it makes me feel (this) way, maybe we could do (this) instead? A lack of good communication will very often result in the parent and child growing even more distant from each other. Remember that your mum loves you and that you are her child after all, she would surely want what is best for you and wants you to feel safe and feel as though you can trust her. This is a two way street in the end, both parent and child need to make an effort. Try to work together with her, and I'm sure that things will work out in the end. Parents sometimes don't realise how they come across to their children, be open with her. If this issue persists it might always be beneficial to speak to another family member who could help and support the both of you.