How to stop hating your little sister?

Siblings may experience being the best of friends at times and the worst of enemies at other times. Though it is common for siblings to irritate one another, this irritation can escalate if both siblings are not properly caring for themselves and the relationship. Self respect is an important quality in a person in order to have stable and healthy relationships and fair boundaries. Many times an older sibling may feel responsible for his or her sibling or may feel guilty denying their younger siblings, however it is essential to learn that each person is solely responsible for his or her actions. When one child attempts to control the other, possibly mistaking supervision for control, spats can occur as one or more persons may feel disrespected or out of control of themselves. Older siblings should discuss the need for a safe space in the home so that they can take a break from other members of the household including younger siblings. Personal space is important for self care activities, self soothing, journaling or to develop mindfulness of present emotions. Older siblings may need to learn to set healthy boundaries with a younger sibling who is trying to seek attention in any number of undesirable ways. Older siblings need to become comfortable with saying “no” and sticking with their choice not to interact more frequently than they are comfortable. Older siblings can reward respectful behavior from younger siblings with attention or interest in what the younger sibling is interested in. If there is a history of bullying in the relationship, one of the siblings may want to request that interactions with one another occur only when an adult is present to ensure the interactions are fair and respectful and to seek adult help to foster healthy and safe interactions. Remaining calm and polite but firm with younger siblings can go a long way toward mutual respect in the relationship.