How to stop hating your little sister?

Reflect on why you might be feeling this way towards your sister. Have an honest conversation with yourself and try to trace back when issues began and why they began. You should not expect to see a change in emotions toward your sister overnight and you can not force yourself to fell a certain way, just like how you can pretend to not be in pain or not be happy. The process will take time and collaboration form both parties. This could be indirect or direct depending on how comfortable you are talking to your sister. You might even set up a chart with the pros and cons of your relationship and analyze them.

It's hard to answer that one as no information is given on the "hater" and the "hatee". One cannot answer this without some knowledge of the circumstances. Some family relationships can become difficult depending on the personalities, the age group, cultural background and events which may have caused this problem. That is to say that the question cannot be answered "as is". I would need particulars in order to reflect on the issue and have a 'whole" picture. It's a prerequisite, I'd say. I wonder why such a dry question was drafted and published when answering requires more knowledge of the situation. Is this a joke or a test?

This is a rather intriguing question since 80% of people will have at least 1 sibling - therefore it's supposed that a lot of people will be feeling the exact same way as you. It's no secret that sometimes younger siblings can be irritating and/or annoying whether it be because they don't understand or are unable to empathise with your emotions. However, it is important to recognise that hating someone does not actually do anything to change them or their actions, it simply makes you feel worse. Trying to understand why your sibling does what they do could give you a better insight into why you act differently. Try to remember that she probably doesn't intend to harm you.

You should start by thinking about the bad things about her. Think of all the annoying things she has ever done to you in your entire life. Then, control your emotions and consider why you actually find it so annoying, sometimes you might find that you're just annoyed cause she's your sister! After that, just forget all the bad things and think only of the good things about her, for example she's actually really funny sometimes, or she's honestly amazing at singing etc. ! Then try to appreciate that side of her, because you would also want her to appreciate your talents too right? :))

First, it's good that you're acknowledging how you feel-- shame and denial are unproductive, and admitting this is the first step. Next, try to figure out what, if anything makes you hate her more or if there are any specific things she or anyone else says or does that trigger this feeling. If it only comes up sometimes, as an impulsive anger, try to know when that happens, and depending on how old your sister is, tell her what bothers you. Work on taking deep breaths and grounding yourself. You can talk to your parents about your frustration and how you want to connect with your sister better.

One thing that I was taught by my mother is to - whenever someone irritates me - remember that: had I been born with this persons set of genes, and then been raised the exact same way this person has been raised, and then lived through the exact same experiences this person's lived through - well, then I would be exactly like this person. I would literally be them. This thought helps me a lot, whenever I struggle to understand someone else. It helps me to try and look at them with empathy and patience. It also helps me to remember to see my own faults and why I want to be patient with myself, and my own faults, too.

Sometimes younger siblings can be irritating and annoying, and there may even be instances where you feel left out or unappreciated because she gets all the attention. Maybe it’s possible to try and figure out why you hate her, work through those feelings and possibly even speak to your parents, or contact one of the Listeners at 7 cups, Who can assist you in understanding why you feel the way you feel. We cannot tell you why you hate her but together we may be able to figure it out, if you do it feel comfortable enough to discuss this with your parents or some other person . If a Listener cannot help you help yourself they can always ask a Therapist to help you to Work through your feelings and understand the underlying reasons for your hate.

It sounds like you are annoyed with her, possibly it would help to think about what she does to annoy you and prompt this feeling of anger. Have you thought about why she acts that way? I suggest you have a look at the mindfulness exercises and focus particularly 'breath' and 'relaxation'. Doing these may help you to find a sense of calm so that you can have a conversation with her. Talking is truly the best medicine, so feel free to message a listener here or even talk to your sister directly and calmly to come to an understanding of why you think that way.

You probably see parts of yourself in your little sister. If there are certain things that make you mad, think about whether those were things you used to do at her age. If you just hate her general presence, you guys might be more similar than you think. If there are things she does that you just don't agree with, talk to her about it. I don't know how old she is but if she's old enough to talk she's old enough to listen. Depending on her age, sit her down and just have a conversation with her. Try not to be too intimidating.

This is definitely a tricky subject! I understand you “hate” your sister, start by asking yourself about those emotions and feelings. Starter words such as why and “what made me feel this way” are the first step. Then, ask yourself do I really hate her or is this a “I hate my sister but I actually love her in the long run” because it is completely normal to not like your siblings all the time. And finally, talk to her, if she can talk back you guys can work through your feelings and cultivate a bond and mutual respect towards one and other.