How to deal with a narcisistic father?

if he is toxic to your wellbeing, you may need to put some distance between you and him right now so that you can heal.

Dealing with a narcissistic father can be tough. They may see themselves as the most important, or that they’re the only one who can be right. My father has always used the bible to back himself up, saying that since he was the man and the husband he is always right. It’s tough to deal with, especially when they don’t listen to how you feel. I find it to be helpful to put myself in his shoes and see why he acts this way. While it may not justify his actions, you can’t exactly fix him or mold him to be something else. Remember that he is human too, and although it may be hard to deal with and evoke feelings that you don’t want, everyone acts like themselves for a reason.

I 'deal' with my narcissistic father as well. This made me laugh because of the way you worded the question- you often just have to 'deal' with these kinds of things. I know this can be very emotionally tiring; I have given myself sleepless nights and countless scars just because of the love I couldn't receive or wasn't shown. However, what I do want you to understand is that you don't have to 'deal' with these people. Quite often, silence and perseverance are your greatest assets- my dad is in much, much control because I stopped giving him the time of my day. When I had to, the responses were very minimal. If he started to argue with me, my responses always were along the lines of, 'Okay, you're always right. Does that make you feel better about yourself?'. He either uses humour or hurtful comebacks to get me, but I can see on his face that it does affect him. Eventually, this gets better- trust me. Just don't feel like you have to 'deal' with these sorts of people. Just remain calm and divert your attention. Although the best thing is to make your boundaries very clear- I do understand that when it's with a father, it gets a little difficult. The best 'advice' (I'm not supposed to give one, I know! Take it as it resonates, a suggestion) I can give is to engage less in conversations. Be better at what you do and don't 'deal' with him when you don't have to- often, ego clashes are a result of more arguments. Let him win, let him have it and you, have your sanity.

Research more about narcissism within the family unit. Narcissism can look different across different family roles and genders. Realize that you are not alone, there are endless stories and communities online to read and be apart of. Also understand that your parent won't change so it's your responsibility to assert boundaries. It won't seem fair that you have to be the bigger person rather than your parent. However, learning to set healthy boundaries within the family unit can spill over and benefit you in other areas in your life where boundaries may also be set. Good luck we are here for you!