How do you stop yourself from yelling at a parent if they're yelling in your face?
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Updated: Sep 1, 2020
IntuitiveDrops
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Jun 17, 2015
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Keeping up good boundaries is crucial. You deserve respect. Your parents have to learn better ways to deal with conflict. It´s healthy and natural for you to want to fight back. However, if you both of you start doing this, you´ll never learn another, healthy way to manage differences at home. If you feel yourself getting angry, try telling them calmly that they should talk calmly to you or you will leave. If they don´t stop, leave , and come back later when they have calmed down. This way, you both can probably learn new ways and de-escalate when anger rises up.
Anonymous
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Jul 17, 2017
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You must remember that they are your parents. You must respect them because they are at a higher authority level than you. I know how hard it is!! You want to scream right back, and "give them a piece of their own medicine" but you will show an extreme level of maturity if you choose to stay calm, and diffuse the situation. When they look back at the situation, if you are calm, cool and collected, they will most likely regret screaming at you. If you give anger right back, the situation will escalate very quickly, and probably blossom into something larger than you want to handle. Remember, if you ever upset and need to vent and calm down, us Listeners on 7cups would love to chat!!!
Anonymous
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May 24, 2015
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Look at yourself while you yell in mirror. And ask yourself, whether you will really like to be like this to the parent. Also you should ask your parents to calm down and talk with you peacefully.
Kate
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Sep 12, 2017
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That's a tough situation and can be really upsetting. Breathing and staying calm is important. Concentrate on your breath and if you need to respond, try to do so in a calm and even tone. I'm sorry that you're going through a difficult time with your parents. Nobody deserves to be yelled at.
PlushPetTony11
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Jul 15, 2019
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You need to be the bigger person. Remove yourself from the situation. Yelling back at someone will only escalate the situation. The parent should be the mature one but in cases like this it’s up to the child to take the mature choice and simply walk away. Yelling in your face is considered aggressive and abusive. They cannot be reasoned with at that point of anger so yelling back will get you nowhere except into more trouble. Always keep that in mind. It won’t do anyone any good. Take a few steps back, leave the room, but do not engage them. If they pursue you then that’s on them, if they keep getting back in your face, that’s a fault with their parenting technique. Just continue to move away and do not yell back.
Spade
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Jan 12, 2015
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This can be hard, because whenever anyone yells at me, I 100% want to yell right back at them. I tip I used to not yell back at my mother (this works with anyone, really) is to inhale, count to four, exhale, count to four, and repeat. Simply by focusing on your own breathing, you can stay cool, calm, and collected.
Anonymous
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Apr 28, 2015
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Yelling begets more yelling. A calm response to them will help to relieve the tension of the situation.
braveIris99
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Apr 30, 2015
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Be entirely aware of the anger rising within you.be in the moment and feel every sensation.realize diplomacy is a must and without it we only serve to feed the toxic negativity between us and our loved one.try to speak calmly and follow your breath going in and out.breathe in deeply.attempt(whilst focusing on your breath)to put yourself in their shoes.also if they are being cruel and insulting you it helps to realise that everything they are saying is something they believe about themselves wether subconsciously or consciously. :)
Rachel5672
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Jul 27, 2015
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Deep breathing always works for me as far as self control goes. And I keep in mind yelling back will escalate the situation and make it worse.
sensiblesummer85
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Oct 1, 2015
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I know how hard it can be because my first instinct is to yell back. I found that by setting boundaries and sticking to them helps. Let them know that you won't be speaking to them when they are yelling at you. When they do start to yell let them know you will not have the conversation at that time ever and walk away. When you both have calmed down broach the subject again . The important thing is to try and keep a cool head, which is hard to do .
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