How do you handle a family member who blames everything on a stroke they had? They are often rude and hurtful, and blame it on their stroke.

When someone go through a medical problem suddenly the whole world is their enemy. Every person like this can be dealt with empathy, patience and most of all your love and support.

They might blame it on their strokes because maybe before they had it they still had their abilities and now they have a limited ability to do something.

Maybe that family member is rather frustrated because of the stroke and it does not stop that family member from changing.

Empathy, try to see the view of the person. Our human brains are designed to protect one's self which may be a reason for their behavior. Sometimes it feels easier to blame something rather then take credit for something negative that has happened. We may not want to feel like we are the cause so we protect ourselves by using techniques such as blame.

Be sympathetic and compassionate but do not enable this behavior. Be kind but firm and convey that they are responsible for their actions.

At some point, we all must be accountable. In many cases, it is human to blame our skills on events that have happened to us in order to get others to enable us to stay in our comfort zone. There is a difference between helping and enabling. Perhaps, you may want to discuss this situation with other family members about your concerns and gain support.

Sometimes that can actually be the case (biologically speaking) but if the behavior is obviously fake then you should tell them and also keep distanced as a consequence.

I would acknowledge and validate their pain while also expressing my own needs to be treated with respect. Relationships are given and take and by giving a little of my heart to help understand their experience, I would feel more empowered to ask for them to meet me half way to meet my needs as well.

You handle it by showing the person that the stoke was not your fault. And you show compassion to the person that has been going through a lot in his life. I would also take the time to listening to everything this person is saying as well to making sure that I have heard everything correctly and that way it makes sure that I have really covered all the bases here. Being patient with someone that is in a lot of pain is the best thing you can do for them. Compassion is what is the most important tool.