how do you deal with a parent disappearing from your life?

We have this image what a parent should be like. Mum soft and sweet, dad supportive and there when you need him. Yet, they are people. Like all people, they have flaws and sometimes they can't handle being a parent. Dealing with it is hard or sometimes even a relief. Everyone handles it differently but for my idea that we also get to choose who belongs to our family like a close friend can be as close as a sister or a brother. Finding those people can be most helpful and maybe trying to understand why they left.

The absence of a parent is not an easy thing to deal with especially if you don't know why. Most of the times the child blames itself or feels angry and abandoned. Fred Rogers used to say: “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, "Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.” Paraphrase it a little bit I would say: When you feel emotionally empty try to find someone in your environment to fill this gap. A good grandfather, an uncle, even a big brother or a sister who will be the helper for you. And have always in mind that the acts of others are not your fault.

The best way to deal with this type of pain, is to transform it into happiness and strength. Use most of the good lessons your parent taught you growing up, don’t depart from things that would lose you to forget who you are.

if your parent disappearing in your life, it can be emotionally draining on your brain and body. i feel you would need professional help and a strong support system. it would be good to have close friends if possible or a significant other to help with the emotional pain. no one deservers to have a parent leave the home but believe in your memories that are good about the parent. you would probably feel anger because it is not fair to be left with only one parent.

I deal with a parent disappearing from my life by working to let go of any anger, hurt or resentment. I work through letting go by using prayer, deep breathing, yoga and mediation. Because in order for me to be at peace, I need to let go of negative emotions and understand people come in and out of our lives - even people we think will be by our side forever. I can be hopeful the relationship could begin anew at some point in the future, but if the current situation is where the parent has walked away, I need to fill my head and heart with good loving thoughts and move forward the best I can.

I empathize with what you're going through. Its a very difficult pill to swallow. It leads one to feel like they have abandonment and neglect issues. It's awful! As far as coping? Therapy, friends, activities, sports, surrounding yourself with people who accept you and people you want to be with and among. We provide therapists on our website in addition to there being chat support if you just need someone to listen. Have you considered having a talk with your parent and expressing how you feel to them? Is it difficult to communicate with them? If so, you could always go to your school counselor and start there.. Good luck !

Parents disappearing from our life can be estrangement or demise. It's never easy. The care that we receive from both parents is always greater than being raised by a single parent. It feels terrible to lose anyone in life and especially parents. Time heals it more than anything. Accepting is hard but it's not impossible. Memories keep rushing and we can always make peace with them and move on. We can talk about it with someone who we trust. It's necessary to give ourselves the time to move on. Help your sibling or parent or anyone in grief with you. Supporting each other is crucial in this time. Hope you feel better soon.