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How do I tell my parents I don't want to go to church?

Profile: Swish2Swish
Swish2Swish on Sep 22, 2017
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Hmm. If your parents are religious then that can be a tough situation. Firstly, it's a good idea up be gentle. Use a gentle tone and gentle mannerism and allow them to have their own reactions. What is the ideal reaction and what do you think is the most likely reaction they'd have?
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Profile: SacredArtist
SacredArtist on Sep 22, 2017
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This is sometimes very difficult, understandably. Beliefs, especially religious beliefs, can be held very tightly to oneself. Some parents are more understanding than others but making your case respectfully and in a well thought out manner can go a long way. If, indeed, this is something that is important for you to get across and worth the time and confrontation, then gently insisting that as an individual, this is something you'd like for them to respect if they can manage it. They may ask you questions and they may even be concerned for you. I believe that responding calmly and as an example of love and understanding yourself... once again, usually, and can go a very long way. Results are usually up to the dynamic between the people involved but thinking of how you will react and remain while pursuing this conversation should be priority, perhaps. Good luck and remember to breathe; do not become discouraged.
Profile: RINM1230
RINM1230 on Nov 8, 2017
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Explain to them in a respectful tone that you feel you differently then they do about attending church. Maybe you have your own beliefs separate from them and the church. Tell them you respect their decisions but for you to continue to find yourself and discover the person you are, church is not something you are willing to commit your time to.
Profile: Nevil
Nevil on Nov 18, 2017
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I don't think you should. It very well could get you in a lot of trouble. If your parents are super religious, they might get very mad at you and start fights. It depends on how well you know your parents. If you think they will let you not go, tell them straight up, if they might get mad, then don't tell them. Maybe give a hypothetical question to test them.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 19, 2017
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If you talk to the patiently and in a sensitive way that you dont enjoy or maybe like going to the church i guess they will understand you and let you decide what you prefer
Profile: NotAGod
NotAGod on Nov 22, 2017
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They shouldn't be forcing you in the first place. God gave us the power to choose. We're not robots. Simply tell them you believe in God enough to believe in his desire - giving us choice. Your choice? Stay home.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 22, 2017
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Be subtle beat around the bush for a little, explain why you don't want too go to church anymore, tell them you just don't feel right going there
Profile: CaringCat94
CaringCat94 on Nov 24, 2017
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You can start by telling them how you feel about going to church and then explaining why you don't feel it is the right ting for you. You have a right to choose your own faith and belief system and they should respect that.
Profile: ListeningSam
ListeningSam on Dec 20, 2017
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I would suggest you sit down with them at a convenient point, with minimum distractions around. Be open with them and honest. Try and express your views and feelings calmly and sincerely, also consider their feelings and emotions to hearing your thoughts. Don’t be angry with their response if it is not what you expected, just explain your feelings and wishes and be thorough. If they are devoted church goers it may be a big shock and they will have questions, if they do, be prepared to answer them, it is only fair. Remember it is your choice what you do and what you believe in. Best of luck!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 4, 2018
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Faith is something that cannot be taught, you either have it or not, but can cherish your spirituality. Simply tell them why don't you want to go to church in a calm and respectful way, maybe they'll understand.
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