How do I tell my parents I don't want to go to church?

I have had a great deal of contention around this topic. Growing up in a religious family can be super stressful. When I told my parents I no longer wanted to be religious, therefore I did not want to attend church, they did not listen to me or even reason with me. When you are a minor (like me) it’s hard to make decisions for yourself because parents/guardians get in the way. The best I have been able to do is just listen and obey my parents. Once I am an adult I will be able to make the decision for myself, and my parents will not have control over what I do. I don not know your exact situation, but the best thing to do is be open about your thoughts and feelings. If you parents do not listen or understand, there really isn’t much you can do from there. But like I said, telling them your feelings and being transparent is the best way from my personal experience.

You should always be upfront and make sure they won't get angry easy. Make sure that they are in a good mood. Then make sure you provide WHY you don't want to go. Have details as well. An example would be Maybe you want to be a bit older before you look into a religion. I know how you feel and religion is a big deal to a-lot of people. Maybe you just don't want to go because it's just not for you. Parents should always respect what we have to say and listen to us. Hope I helped :)

First of all, you must tell them the reasons why, i know parents can be quite scary , especially about religious things, but yo7 must know that , they would never mean any harm on you . Because you are one of the greatest things that happened in their entire life. They just wants what best for you. They love you no matter what happens. So don't be scared about telling them why you don't want to go to church. They would understand that . And communication between a parent and their offspring is a great thing too. Good day to you.

It can be hard to tell your parents you don't want to go to church particularly if your family is religious. Conversations regarding the topic of church can be long and difficult to engage in if you don’t identify with being a religious person. For this reason, it may help to really internally inspect your reasons for not wanting to go to church. You can ask yourself the following questions: Is there something going on in church makes me feel a certain way? What is the impact going to church on my life? What are my beliefs and values concerning the subject of church and religion in general? Reflecting on these questions and your reasons for not wanting to go to church will help you clarify in your mind how you want to present the issue to your parents. Staying calm and laying out your reasoning in a logical, non-judgmental, compassionate and diplomatic manner will give you the best chance of being heard by your parents. At the moment you see the topic of the church is sensitive and it’s understandable you fear causing some offence to your parents about how you go by the communication but please take your time and think things through carefully. Everyone has difference in their opinions and these differences in our opinions make us all unique! Arranging a chat with one of our listeners or online therapist may give you the support on the subject of family stress or emotion management. Best of luck!

Depending on the church, that answer can vary. You might try to have a heart to heart talk with them and see how it goes. Try to get them to understand your beliefs and make it clear that you respect theirs. I have gone through this myself and I know how awkward it can be. It is possible down the road that you will find a new religion and hopefully your parents will be supportive of that. Remember that you cannot control them, and you cannot make them react how you want them too. But if you approach them calmly and state your personal beliefs, you have a much better chance of them accepting you. Try your best to not raise your voice and maybe even try to compromise. If your church has a nursery then maybe you can work there while they are in church.

You could start by sitting them down and telling them you want ot have an open and honest conversation with them about religion and going to church. That way they allready know what direction you want to go with your talk. Explain to them that going to church is just not for you and you want to make up your own mind about wether or not church is important to you. If you have strict parents they might tell you you need to go anyway. But at least they know you dont want to go which might have them think differently some time in the future.

Religion is a topic that depends on what you believe in and how you feel. As an individual, if you do not believe that you have the same faith as your parents and do not want to go to church, I think that it is important for you to clearly voice your opinions. Find a good time to talk to them. Sit them down and tell them that you don't want to go to church. Give them a clear explanation as to why you made this decision. This is essential especially if they struggle to understand why you feel the way you do. Good luck!

Considering I don't know you or your parents or you situation I don't think my advice would be applicable to your life but what I do know is you know yourself better than I do and your parents. Ask yourself what the consequences could be (positive or negative), who do you think they would react and if you can handle it. It can be hard to say no and religion is no exception so it makes sense you are worried but you must take into account your current situation and what it could be like if you told your parents. In the end its a decision you shouldn't be making using advice from random internet people that you don't know and more importantly don't know you.

As someone who grew up in a religious home, this is a tough one. First, I would be curious as to what parenting style your parents would be categorized under. If you are not familiar with the 4 main parenting styles, I would suggest doing a Google search and reading up on them. Approaching an authoritarian parent about these issues is a lot different than approaching an authoritative one, for example. Next, you should also be aware of the consequences of requesting something like this if you are still living under their roof or are financially dependent on them in some way. Again, though, those things are completely dependent on your parent's temperament, how important religion is to them, etc.

Having to tell someone something they don't want to hear is always scary and intimidating. You have to be honest with yourself and your parents. Going to church is something you don't want to do and that is okay. You have to share your feelings and that is okay. You want to be happy with your life. And if going to church is something you don't want to do then you need to share that with your parents. Write down things you want to bring up to your parents on a piece of paper. That way they can understand where you're coming from.