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How do I stop trying to compare myself to my older sibling?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 12, 2019
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There are several techniques. One may be challening your thoughts. When you have a comparative thought, stop yourself and gently compassionately remind yourself that you're not doing that anymore. Immediatley thnk of something good about yourself if you can, and move on with your day. Repeat. It will take some time, but it is possible to cease these habits. You will find that you may be comparing yourself in subtler and subtler ways, until it is barely on your mind. This again is just one of many possibilities. It's also possible that a deep understanding of why you compare yourself to your older sibling can lead you to clues as to how to change your perception.
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Profile: WolfImmortal
WolfImmortal on Sep 7, 2015
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Comparison leads to suffering. There's no human being on planet earth who's not better than you in some aspect. If you compare yourself to others, you are bound to get sad, envious, frustrated or angry. We are different human beings with different DNA & genes. Comparing yourself with someone is like comparing apples with oranges. Compete with yourself! Be the best version of yourself!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 26, 2015
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Never try to compare with anyone. You should know that you're special for who you are and not worry about what others are doing. Be the best at what you're doing.
Profile: ClaireyMarie
ClaireyMarie on Jul 20, 2015
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You need to realize that you and your sibling are not the same person. Your older sibling is not you, and you are not them. I'm sure you are both different in many ways, and I'm sure you have strengths that they do not, and vice versa. You are perfect the way you are, and you will do things the way you are meant to. No one feels good enough when comparing to other people, it's important to do things the way you feel best, and to be who you are. No one is better at being you than you are. :)
Profile: HelpfulNick95
HelpfulNick95 on Jul 7, 2015
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I personally often have this problem with my younger sibling who's in high school because he's smarter than me. Eventually I realized that he is who he is, and I am who I am, and I love who I am. The best thing to do to make sure you don't compare yourself to others is just simply love who you are. You don't need outside influences to make yourself better. You have everything you need to do that yourself, inside of you. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, but not necessarily the same strengths and weaknesses.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 22, 2015
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You want to be happy with yourself, it should not be about living up or becoming them. You are you and you are unique and special in your own ways. Find something you love and help yourself find you and define yourself as your own person. :)
Profile: Raziam
Raziam on Mar 22, 2015
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It may help if you start to think of yourself as an independent person. Ask yourself what you enjoy doing, what your dreams are and where you'd like to see yourself in the future. Knowing what you love and what you want to do with your life is the best way you can separate yourself from comparing to others, especially your siblings.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 28, 2015
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Learn that comparing is unfair. They're older, but it doesn't make you any different as a human. You are amazing the way you are. You shouldn't compare yourself.
Profile: Audrina1990
Audrina1990 on Feb 9, 2016
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Each and every one of us is a individual and no comparison can ever be made to another person as every single one of us is different. I am sure you possess skills which are unique to you and not your siblings, and vice versa. You have to find your individuality and express it as such.
Profile: Premisintheair
Premisintheair on Feb 22, 2015
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Never to compare yourself with anyone, cause what you can do, your Sibling may not & vice-versa so be what you are & have respect to your older one like that u will have a name in your family
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