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How do I set healthy boundaries with my family members?

Profile: sleepingKitten101
sleepingKitten101 on Jan 4, 2015
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Talk to them. Say, "Hey guys and gals, we need to set some boundaries. There are some things going on here that I am not comfortable with and that needs to change."
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Profile: WolfImmortal
WolfImmortal on Sep 7, 2015
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Get them to talking tables! Sit and talk, and tell em what bothers you the most about their actions. All the problems in the world can be solved if we talk to each other instead of talking about each other. And sign an unofficial agreement on a piece of paper after the meeting is over, clearly mentioning all that you desire from em. It's a give n take world. For eg. - If you don't want your family members to breach your private space without your permission, then you have to respect their privacy as well. Write it all and get it signed by all the members concerned. Good fences make good neighbors, and good boundaries make good family.
Profile: Breath
Breath on Sep 23, 2014
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By making sure they understand that you are not a child anymore and can have your own life. Showing maturity, having a job and generally being a dependable person will earn their trust and they will respect your privacy.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 4, 2014
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Tell them how you feel! What are your triggers? What are theirs? Set a time to sit down and talk about it, and figure out what lines you would respectfully like them not to cross.
Profile: fionalee
fionalee on Nov 8, 2014
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You communicate what you need: what is or isn't okay with you? It can be a good idea to present alternative scenarios and their consequences, for example: "I need you to respect me when we talk. I'd like to talk with you often because I love you, but if you don't respect me, I will need to stop talking with you." This helps family members feel like you are giving them a choice, but still makes it clear where your boundaries are.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 17, 2014
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Learn to give each other space when needed and try to always be understanding when talking to them as you don't know what could be making them that way and to be understanding towards them it will give them comfort.
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Anonymous on Nov 20, 2014
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you've to serve your time with your family as possible as you can. always have time for your family. because family is the only one that accept us
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Anonymous on Dec 4, 2014
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Let your family know that you need some space at the moment and that you will bring them in when you are ready.
Profile: LadyLazarus1994
LadyLazarus1994 on Dec 9, 2014
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You need to sit down with them and talk openly about what you want and how much space they should give you. Make sure not to lose temper. I hope it helps. :)
Profile: holdmeclosertonydanza
holdmeclosertonydanza on Dec 18, 2014
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Set some ground rules about what you are comfortable with, and if they say or do anything that you do not like or that makes you uncomfortable, address it so that they know to refrain from similar behavior in the future for your sake.
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