How do I forgive my parents?

“When you begin to see that your enemy is suffering, that is the beginning of insight.” “When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That's the message he is sending.” If you cannot teach them how to love themselves and love you, you can practice forgiveness by loving yourself deeply. “Through my love for you, I want to express my love for the whole cosmos, the whole of humanity, and all beings. By living with you, I want to learn to love everyone and all species. If I succeed in loving you, I will be able to love everyone and all species on Earth... This is the real message of love.”

Just think that you love them and that will make it easier. Forgiving is not easy. But think they have raised you they have forgived all you little mistakes so you should consider doing it too

Forgiveness begins with self. I had to realize that my parents are just people who didn't have a manual on how to raise a child. Once I could see them as I saw other people, people who are struggling through life, I was able to forgive them for the mistakes they've made, and heal a little. It's a daily process.

Parents aren't perfect. They're human beings who make mistakes just like you. Forgive for your sake.

You work towards forgiving them by putting yourself in their shoes and thinking about the difficulties they go through to take care of you and everything else in their life.

Forgiving is done individually. There is no duty or obligation to forgive, and even if there were, it wouldn´t work, because feelings don´t work with duties or obligations. However, if you really wish to forgive them, you can try to see their hurt and ther limitations. It helps to see them as people who have a blurred sight. They cannot see you clearly because of their own issues. They simply cannot and could not. Maybe they truly wanted to do their best, but hurt you. Of course, your pain is very real and valid. Acknowlediging your pain is very important. Grieving will allow you to let go. Allow the sadness over which has been lost and you will find peace and be able to move forward.

If something they've done is truly horrible, you might want to let time do most of the work. We learn a lot each day, and that is also true of your parents. If you do need time to settle this, hopefully you will all be more mature and able to talk it out later when things have calmed down in your lives. But if this is not over something huge and despicable, it may be beneficial to you to befriend some parents close to your age. Spend time with them as they deal with their children and observe how they make mistakes because they're stressed and don't even see the harm they're doing. Try to get some new perspectives. When you start to get how hard it is to learn how to be a parent, you may be less biased. If it's more that you just don't know how to communicate without an argument coming out somewhere, that might be remedied with talking more often. Making sure, during serious conversations, that they know you are not trying to start anything, but trying to get them to understand your point of view. If, after many attempts at working it out, they still won't listen to you, you might need to go with the Let Time Handle It approach.

always remember that you love them, and they love you. Yes, they are older than you and don't see things like you do, but in the end, they do what they do because they really care about you.

Before forgiving your parents, you must forgive yourself. No one is perfect, everyone is flawed, including ourselves. LOVE makes the world go round. Loving someone who claims to be perfect (which no one is) is easy, loving someone who isn't is hard. But, this is way more rewarding.

Forgiving your parents depends on the situation and if you are willing to forgive. Depending on circumstances forgiving comes from with in but you don't forget.