How do I deal with the pressure my parents put on me to be who they want vs. who I am?

It's always a hard one to determine how to draw the line between yourself and who others want you to be! It may seem like a headache, but with a little time and a little chatting with them(if they're the kind of people you can talk to), I'm sure it can be worked out. I used to have some preconceived notions about what my parents wanted me to do and I did my best to do them. But it always flopped and it sucked because then I felt like a horrible failure. My point is, sometimes parents aren't the best at communicating what they want for their children. Sometimes they're too pushy and don't realize that you're growing up and going to be an adult with real thoughts and feelings like any other person living. Talk with them if you can. If you can't, try to keep a journal. Writing down how you feel about the frustrations it causes you is a good way to get feelings out and it helps you be mentally clear later. Find friends to vent with and always make the decision to just be your best self. Good luck!

Open a dialogue that takes as a bridge between who they want you to be and who you are. Open up to them. Allow your parents to understand you. But also understand them. Both of you need to feel heard. You need to reassure them and make them feel included and heard just as much as you need to feel accepted.

Be who you want to be but have a speech in mind if your parents complain and make a compelling argument.

At the end whatever decision u make, u will be the one that will have to live with it. So it is good that you can explain to your parents that the choices that you make will be the choices you have to live it when they are not around.

Stand for your life or follow the followers, your life is yours not them, You have to choose who you are because at the end they will not care about what you feel and your parents will leave you one day with their choices and your pain. You have to choose for yourself and never let others choose for you.

I have found the best way to deal with this is calm, open discussions with your parents. It is never good to approach this as if you are blaming them for doing something wrong. It also helps to be patient. Your parents are trying to do the best they can for you.

Always be true to yourself. Don't do things or not just to make others happy, even if it's your parents. Because you will become miserable and unhappy... and it will be hard to find your true self again.

Gratefully, all of society's rules are made up. The only rules are the ones you set for yourself. The optinos are limitless, which is beautiful and frightening! Your parents are being good-intentioned, but not supportive to your personal well-being. Remain calm, open-minded and honest during conversations like these with your parents (and all others). Explain to them, "I appreciate what you are trying to set forward for me, but I'd like to find my own way, follow what I think is best for my well-being, make my own mistakes, and know that I can count on you for advise along the way." Try to think of ways you would be agreeable to your parents being involved, like maybe if you would be agreeable to them limiting where you go to college, or similar. If they are being head-strong and not open to negotation, well, there isn't much you can do but follow your own dreams respectfully. We cannot control what other people think, do, or how they react, and often others good-intentions are not in our best interest.

You may feel like you want to please your parents, and even feel pressured into being someone you`re not. Your parents should love you for who you are, and more often than not, they just want the best for you. Stand up for what you believe it, keep hold of who you are, as being who we truly are is one of the bravest things we can ever do.

I deal with the pressure my parents put on me by taking time out of my day to have some mindful meditation - I try not to focus on what they say for too long. I'd rather follow my own path than the one they want to shape for me. They sometimes accept it, other times its not about acceptance its just basic understanding. Talking definitely helps, or they wouldn't know how I felt.