How do I deal with a religious family as an atheist?
warmGrace9480
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Dec 28, 2019
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It depends a lot on how your family members' faith is affecting you personally. Are they trying to convert you? Do they push their beliefs on you or judge you based on your choice? If answer is yes, best start based on my experience is to have a respectful, calm discussion during which you can listen to each other, explain your choices and ask/answer questions. If you see that it does not work, reflect on the situation and think about other options. Does their behavior harm you or your self esteem? Does it affect your relationship as a whole? Does it affect your life?
If it is just about your views and beliefs being different, then I would be respectful and accept it. We all have right to choose what we want to believe in and religion offers many people so much more than just a faith.
Stayhappy30
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Feb 2, 2020
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Well, the best way to deal with such a complex situation is is to respect what they believe in and at the same time tell them to not force their beliefs on you. Most situations can be tackled by mutual respect and kindness. And if you feel that they are irritating you, just ignore but dont get instigated. Talking to the family can be the best solution in such a complex situation. Dont worry much about how they will react, be honest, respectful, kind and not disdainful. Hope I could answer your question. You may reach out to me
Anonymous
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Feb 8, 2020
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This is a very difficult topic for a conversation for everyone.
I would first advise you to research an atheist and find the positive things in him that you can share.Then ask yourself what you need to do as an atheist and how much will it suit you personally?Be ready for the family to give up on you when you say your idea or get rid of it. That's okay. It would be a good idea to consider whether it is okay to be an atheist and find yourself in it.I sincerely wish you all the luck in this world. I hope everything goes well.
Anonymous
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Feb 23, 2020
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This can be a difficult issue to deal with, but know that you are not alone. My family is deeply religious and expect other to be as well. Unfortunately, due to my personal experiences, I have fallen out of that religion, but this has placed me at odds with my family who I care for the most. Again, you are not alone. At it's core, religion is what you believe in. Nobody can force you to believe something you don't want to. You need to do what is right by you, for your well being and mental health. Reach out to others and talk it through - nothing is ever so bad that you can't talk about it and find a way through.
MelindaPhD
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Mar 6, 2020
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Just keep your opinions to yourself, and appreciate the good in what your family has to offer. Religion is just one facet of life and you don't have to share it fully with your family. Feel fee to go your own way while they go theirs. You don't need to share everything with your family members and if you have different views on spirituality, it's fine. Many families have different views on politics, relationships, etc. Just accept the good parts religion has to offer and ignore the bad, feel free to have your own values and opinions in life for yourself.
Anonymous
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Mar 6, 2020
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It can be extremely difficult to get one's family to understand your beliefs. I come from a big family and there are a lot of disagreements. However, I managed to open up to some of them by explaining that I don't see things the same way they do. Most of them didn't quite understand, but I think it's okay. I simply try my best to respect their beliefs, even though, they often don't care about mine. Sometimes, I wish I didn't say anything about religion, as it's a difficult topic. If you think revealing your beliefs will only hurt you, I would suggest simply participating in their religious activities with respect even if you don't believe in them.
matt2125
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Mar 18, 2020
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Everyone is entitled to there own personal beliefs and opinions. However, you can encourage them to see things as you perceive them as long as you are not forcing them into believing what you believe. It is also important to respect their decision in order to maintain mutual respect and trust. Try suggest taking them, if they are willing, to see a professional as there may be an underling reason as to why they have lost faith in a certain belief . Lastly, encourage them to be themselves as they may come around one day on their own .
Beech418
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Mar 21, 2020
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Be respectful, focus on things you both agree on, and try to understand where they are coming from as that is what you also want them to do for you. There is an adjustment period, patience and understanding are essential for both parties. After the initial disclosure, a conversation about how you both still love each other and want to be there for each other is important. Basically a how can we make this work conversation with ideally compromise on both sides. If you want your family to respect your atheist views, you also must respect their religious views as well.
Luxia0
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Apr 17, 2020
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Firstly, as you are an atheist while your family is religious, it is important to be aware that there is nothing wrong about this difference, and you are able to deal with it with some effort taken. Religious orientation is something that is just and only up to you to decide. No one should force you to accept their religion, and you have the right to be respected no matter what your religion is. But of course, with a family it can be more complicated as they may have expectations of you to behave in a certain way. However, even this has limits and your family should understand that religion is your own choice. The key for these kinds of problems is communication, you may want to talk to your family about your religious orientation and your decision about that. It is okay if you do not feel ready to do it now, but try to at least think about it, and do not forget that there is nothing wrong with having different beliefs than your family.
TinaGui
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Apr 25, 2020
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You can respect them, listening to them, but not argue with them, not trying to convince or change them. if they want to convince you to believe the religion, you can tell them that you respect them, but you have different belief system. people can love each other even though they have different belief system. You can talk about food, hobbies, sport, don't talk too much about politics or religion topics. if they have specific activities, and you don't want to join, you can tell them and stay in another room to do your favourite things.
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