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How do I deal with a religious family as an atheist?

Profile: adoredComfort43
adoredComfort43 on Aug 9, 2018
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Accept that people have different beliefs regarding religion. It's perfectly okay for you to be different in that regard from your family. Make sure they're not imposing their ideals on you and vice versa, but respect each other's differences.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 9, 2018
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Try to understand them. Don't argue with them. If they want you to believe in their religion, search about that religion. Think like that, 'I am an atheist, but what will I do if there is a God and religion? What will I do in the other world?' Use your brain and look into it. Choose the best way for you so you won't get regret. Don't read the article that wrote by atheists. I hope you can find the right way.
Profile: MidnightRaven999
MidnightRaven999 on Aug 12, 2018
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Respect their religious beliefs, but let them know that they should respect your beliefs as well, no one knows for sure who is right, and both parties deserve the same amount of respect
Profile: snowflakes
snowflakes on Sep 15, 2018
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The answer depends on situation. Some people are mildly religious while some are more. There are even extremists. In case of extremists, it's better to hide the atheist status. In other cases if it seems safe to let them know, just talk to them and let them know your atheist status. In case they keep bugging you to change, tell them that religion should come from heart , only than will it be accepted by God. True religion is personal relationship between God and the individual. Nobody else needs to know if you believe or not believe. There's no place for a third person. People will advise you, guide you on how to be religious but nobody should force you. If they forgot their place, you don't forget yours. Just have your own belief on your life. Don't mind people.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 17, 2018
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Be clear and upfront with the feelings you have and don't try and change them but make them understand where you're coming from. Try to find other people in similar situations and ask for advice. Always contact authorities if your family become hostile towards you. But realise that they only want you to be happy and understand where you are coming from. Most times its just not communicating properly that can hurt families so communicate more and communicate well. As long as you can still do the things you love with your family nothing should really change. they will accept you as long as you continue to accept them
Profile: Blink182andNirvana
Blink182andNirvana on Oct 19, 2018
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I myself am an atheist in a religious family. The truth is to just follow what you believe and let them do the same. They have no right to expect or ask you participate in religious activities and you have no right to ask them not to or to go against their personal beliefs. However, it can be beneficial to all of you to share your opinions and reasons behind them so you can understand from a different perspective why they choose to be religious and they can understand why you choose not to be. If they try to push you to do things you don't want to do, just politely decline and if they push further let them know you care and respect their beliefs and wish they would do the same for you.
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Anonymous on Oct 19, 2018
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I, as an atheist, completely understand this struggle. What I have learned to do is change the subject whenever religion comes up. If you've already come out, simply express to them that you are not interested in their religion, but you still love them. If you haven't come out yet, try to slowly push their religion away so soon enough they wont be horribly shocked if you come out. The more respect you give them, the more they'll give you.
Profile: angelFace94
angelFace94 on Nov 14, 2018
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You should explain them that you care about them and that the fact that you are an atheist doesn't change anything but your personal beliefs. Make sure they understand that you respect them and their beliefs even though you do not follow their religion. If they do not respect you for that, you should, try to explain them why you don't believe in the same things they do, make sure that they know you feel this way because you do, and simply because of that. Make sure they understand you're not just saying it, that it is who you are.
Profile: EternalEngine
EternalEngine on Nov 16, 2018
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As someone who is religious but also respects anyone who is an atheist, I firmly believe the best way to interact with the religious family is to keep the topic of religion to a minimum. Religion is extremely important to many people because it partially is who they identify as due to the values and way they're supposed to live their life according to the religion in question. I do know that a good way to start a conversation, if you're open to it, is to ask them about their religion and just listen to them talk, sort of like how we talk to people here! Asking someone about something they're very interested in or something that's a big part of their life is surely a conversation starter, and will pave the way to creating a level of mutual respect between you.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 18, 2018
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Growing up in a conservative household and community, I learned how difficult it can be being berated, having religion shoved down your throat. There are several ways to "combat" this but the best may be to "preach" acceptance and love just like most religions do with your own actions and words. Most of all is just to accept the situation yourself. Your beliefs and views are your own, and that's awesome. Accept it for part of who you are. Furthermore accept the fact that one can rarely can another, so don't just "give up" on your family but rather set that example of tolerance without feeding into what can seem very hateful and judgmental.
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