How can I tell my mother in law to back off?

love this question. I have had to do this a few times lol. try being nice at first. I know its hard. but sit down and talk with her about how shes around to much. and that you would like space for you and your partner to grow. relationships are 2 people not 3. if that doesn't work you might have to be more blunt. this may upset her but over time she will get over it and realize you were right and that everyone needs there own space. mothers in law can really be a pain lol.

I understand that family members, especially step or in law family members can be frustrating to communicate and live with at times. I reccommend reaching out a 7 cups listener to chat and work through these feelings, and then if you are ready, try to identify what your mother in law does to upset you and work through it further. I cannot offer advice, but understanding and identifying what causes these unhappy emotions may be helpful in overcoming them! There are also great resources on 7 cups to help with various issues, such as anxiety and relationships. Speaking with a 7 cups listener and discussing these strategies would be a great first step!

Mother in laws are really sometimes the causes of the problem of a couple. There are many ways to tell them to back off but make sure that you can make them understand that things change and you and your partner are married already and she can do nothing about it, all she has to do is accept it. Tell her and make her understand acceptance. Whatever her reasons are, make her understand that she needs to accept the situation -- everything. You don't have to go bitchy or an ass on her. Just make her understand because maybe that's what she's lacking.

Tell your mother in law in a respectful manner that you dictate you own life, and it becomes difficult when she constantly tries to medel. Give her specific examples in which the outcome was negative due to her inserting herself into your life too much. Or instead, give her examples of times you succeded without anybody's input. It is important here to be respectful at the beginning as she is your mother in law, but if she continues to negatively impact you or simply put more stress into your life it is okay to be honest and tell her you got this!

it would be in your best interest to maybe calmly speak to her and explain to her that you are feeling a bit over welmed with everything that she is doing and that you would like it if she could give you a little more space so you can deal with some matter on your own and not have to worry about her always being there and then after that explain to her that you do not mind her being around but at times she can be a bit to much and you would just like to have a bit of your own personal space

Boundaries are important! I'm sure there are some things your mother in law wouldn't like. Consider sharing those boundaries with her. It's important to address these early on with people you come in contact with. It serves purpose for when someone is crossing over the line, that's a way you can give yourself respect. If you already told them your boundaries and they choose to ignore it, then consider distancing yourself a bit so you can show how important it is for you. It isn't helpful if you keep that within you because they may not know and if they do then the best thing they could do is stop.

Politely ask her to back off a couple of times. If that does not work, sit down with her and talk it out. Figure out why she is so involved and try to dissuade her from being in your business. Ask if there is a reason she is acting the way she is, it could be an external or internal factor in why she acts the way she does. Sit her down, and try to come up with a compromise. I believe compromise is always the answer. We should avoid arguing if it is possible. Arguing is not a nice way to figure something out.

It can be tricky to navigate familial relationships, especially within the family your partner comes from. However, all relationships can benefit from healthy boundary setting, and the mother-in-law with daughter-in-law relationship is no exception. How do we know when we need better boundaries? A lot of times needing boundaries feels frustrating, even infuriating, and like nothing is working for you. Putting in extra effort, constantly "letting it go", taking responsibility for the other person, being saccharine-sweet to avoid conflict--none of that is working. If you feel like that's what going on, boundary setting might be for you. Boundaries help avoid ambiguity because they help you see clearly what you are responsible for versus what the other person is responsible for. A good place to start would be to identify the problem area in your relationship with your mother-in-law. What is the specific conflict, and what is the driving factor behind that conflict? There is usually an underlying motivator that causes one or the other of you to act or speak in a way you normally wouldn't. Is there a deep-seated need that is causing you to act or respond to her in a strained way? Find support within yourself and develop a support structure of others to meet that need, if possible, so you do not give her control of you via that need. Then, practice saying "no" to her, simply and gently, but firmly. This is to demonstrate that you are willing to, and will be enforcing, your boundaries. If she tries to start in with you, respond to her without "reacting". A reaction is based on what the other person has said or done, but a response comes from you and what you are willing to express. A response puts you in power, whereas a reaction puts her in power. Then, learn to forgive and love her, while maintaining those boundaries you've established.

Start by thanking mom for her concern. ... Let her know you've got this situation covered. ... Keep the focus on yourself and use “I" statements. ... Stick to the issue at hand. Don't get sucked in. First and foremost, don't get sucked into her world! ... Work on your confidence. ... Stop trying to please her. ... Learn her methods. ... Learn to be a rock. ... Forgive and forget. ... Set boundaries. ... Find your joy. Set boundaries. Figure out the boundaries that you'd like to set with your in-laws, Hansen said. For instance, if your mother-in-law takes over your kitchen every time she visits, talk about it with your spouse. “Then have a respectful, but clear conversation with her about the issue.”

Sometimes the best way to get an intrusive family member to back off is to gain the support of your spouse. It's likely that they will feel the same way that you do about the situation and that when it comes time to confront the family member, they will be there to support you in your shared decision. That way there is no blame placed only on you for needing to confront your mother in law. The best way to tell her to back off is the be straightforward, beating around the bush and sugar coating the situation will only prolong the incident and often make matters worse.