How can I change how my family feels about me? I'm treated like the black sheep.

You can't control your family's feels, but you can control yourself, treat yourself with full respect, the respect you wanted to see in their eyes.

Be kinder to yourself. Once you love yourself more others will too. Your family will see this and respect you more.

You shouldn't go through life wanting to change people's feelings about you, you can only change yourself.

I know how this feels , as a person who always had different views , values and priorities than the others , I was always left out in my family. Remember that no matter what , you should never change yourself just for others to accept you. What you can do is to sometimes compromise and if you can , focus on what you and the others in the family have in common, and try to build a more harmonious relationship. If they won't try too however , it is not your fault. It is their loss , and you can find wonderful people to be like a second , true family.

Well, this is a very hard situation to be in. I think that trying to understand the why is the first step, I think. Trying to work it out, the second step, if it truly is something you can change and agree to change. After trying to work things out and if it's something personally attacking you... unfortunately there's little one can do. And that's a very hard position to be in, but you have got to remember that sometimes family is the one you choose not your blood veins. So seek help from your friends, or communities online. Good luck!

Hi! Welcome to 7 cups! I hear that you are worried about how your family feels about you. Feeling like your family views you as the black sheep must feel very hurtful. Have you tried to talk to your family about your concerns? Sitting down with family, allowing yourself to be honest and vulnerable to them, may give them more clarity as to how you feel when they treat you in certain ways. It could be possible that your family is not aware of the impact they are having on you. If you do sit down and have an honest heart to heart talk with your family with the intention of creating solutions, and you later discover that your family will not make themselves available to listen to your concerns and feelings with authenticity, you may have to accept the difficult realization that your family may never change how they feel about you or how they treat you. The truth is, none of us can control what others think and feel about us. We can try to negotiate and speak with kindness and empathy to them, with the intention to heal and reconnect the relationship, but sometimes people, even family members, are simply not capable of this kind of loving communication. I agree, this reality is very disappointing, but the good news is, now you understand your family's behavior and you have the freedom to meet new like minded people who will treat you the way you would like to be treated. Those new friends could very possibly become a better support system for you than family. We naturally have expectations of positive support from our own family, but I have come to learn, family members are sometimes not ready or able to give you the support you need.