How can I change how my family feels about me? I'm treated like the black sheep.
TeaWithAFriend
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Nov 11, 2014
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The short answer is that you can never change the way anyone feels about you unless they're willing to listen so that they can understand rather than judge. The problem is, most people only listen so that they can judge and advise you on how to live your life exactly as they do. So, after decades of trying to please my family and feeling like the black sheep, I realized I really didn't like them and wondered why I was bending over backwards for people who didn't like me either. Instead of focusing my time, energy and thoughts on them, I focused on the people in my life who were positive and who wanted to understand me, listen to me, and who had interesting and helpful information for me when we interacted. In other words, I made friends with people who liked me the way I was and who I found interesting and engaging while strictly limiting my time with family to the bare minimum required for social convention.
naturalForest32
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Apr 21, 2016
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first stop trying to change their attitude towards you. treat yourself with respect and dignity .concentrate on what you can do.if they assume and believe you as the a loser , then dont bother to change their attitude . family is suppose to be a support when some one fails .so just be happy and do some thing for your self
Lailah
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Nov 18, 2014
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Why do you feel that way? You can discuss with them how they were treated when they were young try to find the roots where your the black sheep.... don't feel alone because it's not your fault ...is there favoritism
Charity0
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Nov 2, 2014
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I've been the black sheep in my family most of my life too. It is difficult to change what others think of you even if you're related. What we all can do is change how we view ourselves. I try not to think too deeply about how I'm the "black sheep" all the time and just focus on spending a certain amount of time with my family and try to enjoy my own life with the people in my life who make me feel cherished.
elleslovesyou
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Mar 2, 2016
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Hey, the first thing that you have to know is that no matter what, you need to learn to accept yourself first before anyone else can accept you for who you truly are. The second most important thing to keep in mind that sometimes, it might not just be you or because of you that your family treats you that way -- sometimes bigger issues are running deeper into the situation and you just happen to blended into that. Always try talking to someone first about it, whether it be a guidance counselor, teacher, a Listener here on 7cups (!!) or even someone in your family...especially if you're feeling like an outcast and not your best self. But the most important thing to remember is that other peoples opinions don't, and shouldn't ever, shape everything that makes up you. Your family may feel that way and you may feel down because of it, and if it gets to you always just find a residence for your feelings inside of you or inside someone you trust. There will always be people in this world who care about you, and unfortunately, family isn't always the most obvious one. Stay strong and remember that you're not alone if you ever need help or advice :)
CoolMom
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Nov 3, 2014
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Do whatever they want and they will love you more. Does that make sense? Of course not! They love you because you are you. Help them understand you more, through open communication, rather than changing yourself to someone you think they would approve of more.
ingridmarguerite
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Nov 17, 2014
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Try to talk to your family more about how you feel about the way they treat you. If they can begin to understand how you feel toward their behaviour, it can really help to get them to treat you better.
Anonymous
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Mar 18, 2016
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Hey, I can relate to that! Sometimes you carry so much magic that the rest of your family can't understand...what to do?
Anonymous
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Apr 27, 2016
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Don't care about it. What others think of us is none of our business. Just enjoy your life to the fullest..
HerforU2580
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Oct 23, 2014
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being the black sheep must make you feel lonely you need to work above it by reassuring yourself to build your self esteem this will give you a better perspective and show your family you deserve respect
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