Am I obligated to immediately forgive someone for a wrongdoing just because they are family?
mysteriousWillow50
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Apr 8, 2015
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No, you're not. Wrong-doing, regardless of whom did it doesn't require immediate forgiveness. Just because someone is related to you that doesn't mean they're entitled to be forgiven, forgiveness, like respect has to be earned. -Also, just another thought, I've actually had people that are by-blood related family that are worse than the family I've created for myself. With that, the people you choose to be family with as it were, I feel like forgiveness is easier because you chose each other and don't go out of your way to harm one another. The family you're born and in some cases 'stuck' with, it can be a bit different. With that, forgiveness isn't an automatic because you share DNA with someone.
Uniqueg
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May 6, 2015
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Not at all, family or not we all have our limits. It hurts even worse because it's your own family that hurt you, make them aware of this and how they made you feel and that you'll need some time to forgive them.
Anthony974
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May 7, 2015
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No, absolutely not. Forgiveness is something many people struggle with, me included. Forgiveness must be earned by the person, family or not.
Treasure0124
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May 30, 2016
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Yes you should forgive because what if that person dies and you never got to apologize or say that you were sorry you would live in regret forever.
Anonymous
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Sep 13, 2016
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No. If you feel like someone in your family did you wrong, you don't have to forgive them just because they are family. You, as a person were wronged, and just because the person who did it was family doesn't make it okay.
Anonymous
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Feb 24, 2015
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It takes a lot of emotional energy to hold a grudge. Forgiveness is more beneficial for ourselves than for the person who wronged us. It's said that holding onto resentment is like hurting yourself and expecting someone else to bleed. In the case of a pattern of behavior, it makes sense to adjust our circumstances/ behavior to prevent the same thing from happening. If the threat has passed however, it will go a long way toward family harmony and rebuilding trust if we can leave the past in the past.
livingincolorsth
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May 8, 2015
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No, you are not. You need to forgive people because it will help you to let go and not hold on on into things that might hurt you in time. Forgiving is healthy so you dont have to do so because people is family, yo need to do it beause you want to and is going to make you feel good, but is alright o be angry with someone for a little while.
Pumpkin74
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May 20, 2015
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If a family member has affected you deeply, you are not obligated to forgive or forget. Having said this, it does not mean that you should hold onto this pain. While we are sometimes hurt by those we love, discern the situation and ask yourself questions such as: What was the intent of the person who hurt me? Is this something I can live with and forgive? Will they hurt me again? How will I be affected without this person in my life? Do I want to forgive or am I still angry at the situation? Remember, it is your life to choose who you allow in your heart and you deserve to be respected and loved regardless of their position.
pm229
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May 21, 2015
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No, you have the right to go through a process. You need to first learn how to deal with what was done wrong. Family will always be family, and forgiving is an option and not an obligation.
DipityEnigma
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Jul 14, 2015
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No. Family is just a tag. They're given it so that you and others know who is affiliated with you through DNA. Nothing more, nothing less. No matter if they're a family member, friend, colleague etc, they are all human and we should all be responsible for our own actions, no matter the link between you and the other person or people. Respect is what should hold people together, not a tag. I hope this information helps. =D
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