A family member passed away. How can I cope knowing that I'll never see them again?
Anonymous
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Nov 3, 2014
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Sorry for your loss.I know you are in a strange place.Stay strong it gets better.
Honor that person and cherish them so they will continue to live in you heart.
We only label death "bad" because we do not understand it. You can not change what
happened or what will happen to us all, BUT you can manage and control how you live
right know.
Think about why you feel this way ?
What does that person mean to you?
What did you learn from them? ( directly or indirectly)
I know it sounds hard but if you explore this new perception you are in you will realise
beautiful things.
Tl;DL Be the best person you can for the living and cherish the dead and let them live forever within you. Have no regrets. Much love & good luck :)
magicalsummer152
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Jun 17, 2015
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Think about whag they would have wanted you to do in such a situation...they loved you so probably they will always want you be strong enough to face the reality...and also its not thaf you have lost all of them they lie inside you ....your love for them is a thing that keeps them alive in you...so do what they would have wanted from you...be sucessful...and always remeber they loved you
Wilburt
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Oct 31, 2014
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It is very hard to cope with the loss of someone close to you, especially if you didn't have a chance to say goodbye. A helpful thing to keep in mind is even though the grief is raw and intense at the moment, time will help heal the pain. Taking time to reflect on the good times you had with your family member is important. You loved them, so you will probably always miss them. Take some time to look after yourself and come to terms with this big life change.
Sprinkles128
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Jan 30, 2018
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I am so sorry for your loss. First, you can feel however you want to feel right now, and cope in all the ways that seem to work. You may have reactions that will surprise you (like inappropriate humor?) and you may go through loops, where the sadness burns hot at unexpected times. Psychologically, grief has many stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Knowing that you are experiencing a phenomenon that others have experienced may at some points bring comfort, but also know that your loss is completely unique, and that you do get the honor of responsibly cherishing the memory of your beloved family member who is no longer with us. Religious communities (if that is your thing) may offer ritual, philosophy, and community practices that you can try on for size for coping; but even secularly, I offer these ideas to try 1) mark and memorialize special time having to do with this family member, special moments you had with them, and time since their death 2) explore a method of communication with them/your memory of them that feels connecting for you 3) connect with people who also knew them, and learn what you can about their life and their memory so you have more to chew on as time goes by. Wishing you and your family all my best.
Kelli11
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Oct 3, 2014
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Dealing with the loss of a family member is always difficult, especially if that person was significant in your life. I lost my father as a young girl and it was heartbreaking, frustrating, and left me angry at the world. This is okay. It is okay to have these overwhelming feelings. It takes time to grieve. It's not something that will go away easily. Take time, cherish the memories, and keep fighting.
PatientEar
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Apr 23, 2015
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Remember that they live on in you and everyone else they influenced. Your personality, memories, and dreams are shaped by them.
lustt0dust
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Sep 25, 2014
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Losing a loved one is always upsetting. It can feel daunting and scary at times, because you realise you'll never see them again, but finding ways to cope can help greatly. Some people like to think of it as just the thought that the family member had moved away. At least immediately, it makes dealing with the loss a little more comprehendible.
Anonymous
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Oct 8, 2018
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I personally coped with the heartbreak by realizing that he is in a better place. My cousin passed away from a motorcycle accident. It was unexpected and broke my heart, but I can still feel him with me. I know he may physically be gone, but the love I have for him is forever with me. He was and continues to be my best friend and rock. I pray for him every night and visit his resting place to tell him about my life. I made a vow to live my life for the both of us, that's my way of keeping his spirit alive.
Anonymous
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Nov 4, 2014
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Live like they are still there in your presence, dont dwell, because they wouldn't want to see you like that.
BurdenBucket
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Oct 14, 2014
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Focus on the wonderful memories you have of them. Try to focus less on the fact that they'll be gone and more on the wonderful times you spent with them while they were here. Know that things happen for a reason and although it may seem like they shouldn't have gone so quickly, it shows us just how dear life is. Hang on to the memories and love them fiercely, but also accept. It's a hard time and you're not alone.
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