How do I independently motivate myself?

It is not easy to have intrinsic motivation. In my experience, these are the things that help: 1) Realizing what is important to you and putting it down on the paper. 2) Realizing that life is too short not to live for what is important to you. 3) Jotting down the steps you need to take to get where you want yourself to be. 4) Going down that path step by step and not expecting too much of yourself. 5) Realizing that not everything is going to go according to you plan. 6) Realizing that sometimes you cannot predict what the best way for you to reach that goal is. When you are set to achieve something, sometimes a path you could've never imagined could open up. Sometimes you need to accept it, even if seems like it doesn't lead you where you want to do - it can give you experience you need to achieve what you wish for.

I independently motivate myself by doing something good for another person. Whether it is lending a helping hand, volunteering, or sharing something with a friend; I like helping out and seeing someone else smile because of what I have done for them is very pleasing and uplifting to the soul. I like knowing that I am appreciated. Especially in today's society there is so much going on whether people take each other the wrong way or people tend to argue; there is just so much jealousy and anger and animosity between people who could simply get along if they only communicated with one another and serviced each other.

I experienced myself low motivation, for exemple to do my homeworks early enough. And later, to do the things at work that seemed the hardest for me, like phoning unknown people, or talking to someone always grumpy. I felt really guilty because these things seemed achievable (some of my friends did it, so why not me ?), and angry at myself. Most of all I felt scared because the homework or job was not done and I had less and less time to achieve it. When I started to work, I have been obliged to finally do those things (or my student group would have had nothing in their schedule !). Then I discovered that the first step was the most difficult. When I started to do something, even small, my fears went away. I felt that I was doing my best, and that was enough to keep motivated.

Independent motivation is a skill that needs to be practiced. For me, it is all about small steps to reach a bigger goal. If I'm feeling unwell or unmotivated, I focus on small, simple tasks/steps. I may not reach my goal quickly, but I will eventually reach it by being persistent. Even on my worst days, I try to accomplish something. It may be simply getting dressed or combing my hair, but it is important for me to look back on the day and see that something worthwhile happened. There is something inside of me that must be satisfied, and that is what motivates me.

Good question. There are a ton of ways. First. You can focus on your goal. Why do you wish to complete whatever your doing? What is the end goal? When you have the end goal in mind, the process in which you are in currently will be completed quicker. The second strategy can be the 5 second rule. The 5 second rule is to decide in 5 seconds whether you want to do a task or not. You literally count down. 5.4.3.2.1. BOOM. Decide. This way time is saved and your more efficient. The final thing can be to play inspirational music or watch motivational videos. Bleh. May work with some however it doesnt work sometimes. If you must, look up Jocko Willink. Always gets me out of a rut.

It's very hard to independently motivate oneself. It's usually why people rely on their biopsychosocial network of peers, family, doctors, etc. That being said, sometimes you have to do things on your own, like writing a test. In cases like these, it's good to have a purpose or goal to do something. For example, you want to pass your engineering exam so that you are eligible for reliable employment opportunities in engineering. Some people are motivated to do well in school because their parents told them so. However, this is not a good goal as it's not your own goal. A good goal is something that is possibly attainable if you break it down in smaller sections. So if you wanted to do well to get a nice job, that requires you studying for tests, networking, volunteering, etc. Obviously, this is not easy - but if you break down the overarching goals into smaller pieces, it becomes more manageable and you can add onto it once you have mastered one thing. So first you would focus on how to study based on your talents. Then, you would focus on how to meet like-minded people in the industry through research. Then, you would try to do some volunteer work once you are ready. Moral of the story: a reasonable purpose and goal for doing a thing.

Know yourself, really know what you are doing, know why you do it, love yourself, love what you are doing, love why and how you do it. If you can’t love it, accept that you are doing it in this moment.

I personally motivate myself by thinking about how the action will benefit me in the future. This is enough of a reward in itself. If something benefits you later it is always worth doing it now. Also, a small physical reward as a treat is always a good idea. For example, at the end of my exams I might get myself a bit of chocolate as a treat. I also want to make my family and friends proud, so that is a huge motivator for me personally. Motivation is different for everyone, but is extremely important because it helps us get things done.

One thing I try to do personally is visualize myself reaching my goals because that can put you in a better positive mindset. If you believe you can do it, that might just work. Other things you could do is take a walk in the park to clear your head or even exercise. Another thing I do is make a to-do list. That way you can feel encouraged as you cross each one off. Make sure you also prepare things early so then you don't have a lot of stress put on you. Baby steps is all it takes.

1. Remind yourself why you want to do something 2. Break down your work into smaller chunks 3. Make your activities fun 4. Promise yourself a reward when you get something done 5. Give yourself occasional breaks to avoid burnout 6. Tell yourself that you can accomplish anything 7. Convince yourself you want to do it 8. Remember your "why."