Why can't I just be like most of the people I see who somehow manage to approach eating more rationally than I do?

We all face different struggles, eating "rationally" might be easy for some people. But if it's your struggle, that's your struggle. By judging it, you actually put it on a pedestal. Letting it go, makes it a little easier to work through. The people who don't struggle with eating, may struggle with things that are easy for you.

You can, you just need to overcome whatever it is that is keeping you from eating like everyone else

Every one has different bodies different bodies require different things and different rations and such

Because you're not most people. And unfortunately millions are going through the same thing. The main step is to identify the problem, work out some goals and create steps and solutions to get from your current situation to the state of mind you aspire to have.

For me, eating is a way to forget about all of my problems, and to comfort me when I'm sad. A nice big bowl of ice cream, or a bag of chips can really help me when I'm feeling down. Unfortunately, it's a vicious cycle, and the more I'm teased for my weight, the more I eat, and the bigger and heavier I get. Most people I know are skinny and average-sized, and it's hard not to feel enormous next to them. I really try and control my eating habits, but it's very difficult. I've tried replacing eating with another activity that comforts me, but I always seem to end up with a chocolate bar in my hand, mindlessly chewing and taking another bite. It's just so hard.

Honestly, sometimes I wonder this too. I'm not sure of this but I think some research has been done that shows people who struggle with an eating disorder (ED) or ED-like characteristics ... their brains are actually wired differently when it comes to thinking about and choosing and eating foods. That could be part of the answer to your question. I think that's a very good question/topic to talk about with your counselor/therapist. And there's also the ED support sub community here on 7cups :)

It never helps to compare yourself with other people. You do not know their stories and no one else knows your story. Everyone has a different body, different metabolism, different taste. Some people eat when they are stressed or sad, some people can't eat anything when they are feeling like that. Focus on yourself and what you want to achieve and why is that so. It might worth having a look at what you eat. What I can recommend is a food diary. Literally write every single thing you eat (how much, when, how that makes you feel - if you want to). What are the circumstances? How were you feeling before and how were you feeling after? Do not blame yourself for that. Don't judge. Just stay objective and honest and write it down. After some days, weeks, think of how you would like it to be. Do small steps. Is there something you can imagine giving up? Or eat a smaller portion of? Can you have a one piece instead of two? Etc. Write it down again. Write down your goals. And keep tracking how it goes. Don't punish yourself if it doesn't work. It is a long journey. Start where you, look where you want to be, and try to do small changes, step by step. Look for better alternatives to what you are eating, try to eat less of what you don't want to be eating so much. But always stay kind to yourself.