Why do I feel like I can't get past the bad things that have happened to me?

because the bad thing remain in our mind a lot of time and make us confused,we are followed by ths bad things

It can be because you put very much energy and emphasis in overthinking about the bad things that have happened to you in the past. By overthinking you not only relive memories on bad things which happened in the past but you also learn and emphasize your memories of bad things which happened in the past and cause that you have harder and harder time forgeting them as you learned them so toroughly. People learn through repeating and repetitive overthinking is therefore a kind of learning. With encoding more and more negative things which happened to you in the past in your memory via learning through overthinking, your amygdala (part of brain responsible for emotional responses) gets bigger and bigger and thus you Will have even harder time relaxing in the future due to your present overthinking about bad things that happened to you in the past.

It may be because you have yet to understand the difference between who you are and how you feel. Can you identify your feelings and possibly write them down. 7 cups have a lot of resources around dealing with certain emotions such as anxiety and depression. It’s important that we separate ourselves from the feelings that we get when we think about the past. Meditation can be really helpful in our healing journeys by learning to relax and calm our thoughts which can help us separate the feelings and by identifying them we can better work on them and talking things through with people you can trust. An help eleviate your emotions from causing too much pain.