What's the best way to cope with family members who will not accept your sexual orientation?
Erynn
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Jan 14, 2015
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It can be very helpful to cultivate a supportive community outside of your family. For many, the ideal supportive community is close friends. But, a local queer group can be a good place to start searching for supportive friends if you don't have many/any supportive friends yet, and it can also help extend your supportive social circle. Queer events can also be fun and empowering. There are also many online communities and resources you can access to find support. When I am having a hard time, I enjoy: queer music, reading queer history, reading books with queer characters, reading queer studies articles, queer youtubers, watching drag, LGBTQ+ films, tumblr, and LGBTQ+ news sources. Your family may change their opinions, and I hope that they do. But even if they don't, there is an entire community ready to support you. Hang in there. It can get better.
GentleMom
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May 11, 2015
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Be patient...some people change. Our society is becoming more understanding. Until then, remember that you don't need anyone's permission to be you.
RoxyPeeps
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Feb 15, 2015
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Either cut off communication with them or make sure to avoid them whenever possible. Talking to them will only give you negative feelings you do not need and will not improve the way you feel about your own sexual orientation.
4you247
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Jun 9, 2015
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Time is a great healer for them. Do not focus on a lack of acceptance, but perhaps a shock factor that they are dealing with in their own way. How they feel now is unlikely to be lasting. Stay strong and true to yourself :)
Waterbear
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Jun 14, 2015
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They will generally get more accepting with time. It can also help to get other parents of LGBT people to talk to them. Try to spend as much time as you can with people who are accepting, so you have something to counteract your family members' worldview.
Anonymous
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Nov 10, 2015
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Cut them out of your life or help them understand that who you are is what you've always been even if you don't look like it.
serenePresence54
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Nov 16, 2015
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Talk to those that are accepting because sometimes you just need to be in a positive environment. Some of them may even come around in time because some of my family members have because they have learned more about the LGBTQ+ community through me and have become more understanding. The sad thing is that there is no promises that all of them will come around but you need to allow yourself to feel the love and positivity from the ones in your family that are accepting you.
friendlyMoment33
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Dec 28, 2015
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The best way is time. Continue to talk and have open discussion with those family members, because there is a good chance the are just incorrectly informed. If they aren't coming around then move on and fill your life with positive people.
Anonymous
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Feb 23, 2016
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The best way to communicate with your family member would try and sit them down. if they will not except you for who you are just give them sometime.
politeFish31
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Mar 1, 2016
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Depending on which country, what laws and how 'homophobic' they are, it is a brave step to come out, but coming out of the closet can be managed so that you don't find yourself in compromised situations.
Be smart about it, but at the end of the day, your parents are your parents being true to yourself despite what may happen, it will set you free!
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