Is it normal to seek out ways to recreate parts of the traumatic experience to live them again?

yes. the brain naturally tries to protect us from being hurt again by reminding us of our past experiences. but sometimes it's harmful rather than something that helps us. when we have a traumatic experience we can unknowingly relive it over and over again by playing through the scenario. once we realize what we're doing we can have more control over it by telling ourselves it wasn't our fault and that the person that did it wasn't mature enough or had problems of their own that caused them to do it. once we understand and truly forgive the wrongs that were done to us we can move on and they don't come up with hurtful feelings attached to them anymore.