I have a hard time talking about what happened. Why?

I think people have a hard time talking about something that happened especially if it's traumatic because somehow it makes them relive that moment, making them feel all the emotions that they used to feel that time.

It's not easy talking about significantly negative events, for a number of reasons. Sometimes bringing the event back up stirs emotions you'd rather have buried and feel uncomfortable with having them resurfaced. Sometimes memories are triggered that can hurt or be a source of more discomfort. Sometimes talking about it raises questions you don't have answers to, which can be frustrating. It can be a cause of stress, it can hurt, it can depress. Sometimes you just want to forget. It's important to understand that it's okay to feel like this, and you don't have to talk until you're ready.

you could be suffering from trauma from the event(s). that's perfectly normal, but extremely unhealthy. the best thing to do depending on your willingness and, of course, situation is to open up to a professional maybe whom especially specializes with this area of situation. if you don't yet feel comfortable, maybe you can talk about the guilt and/or shame associated with how you're feeling about what happened. you can avoid talking about it, til you feel comfortable opening up, but you do have many options in talking about how you feel about it!

There might be a few reasons... sometimes we are afraid that people wont believe us, or we are afraid of people's judgement. Other times we feel too hurt or embarrased. And sometimes memories hurt, and talking causes flashbacks and pain... these feelings are all normal

Usually it's hard to talk about something that happened because you're afraid to relive the experience over again just by thinking about it (much more talking about it). Or there are some cases where you don't want to talk about it because you want to forget it ever happened or you just think that your problems are insignificant (which it isn't, okay?)

There might be a boat load of reasons why you might find it difficult to discuss what happened with you. I can tell you from my perspective though: I always felt as if no one would understand, they wouldn't care, they would judge me negatively, they may start to hate me, or they would just treat me differently. Lo and behold, all of these things did end up coming true, but when I discussed it with my best friend and my current s/o, they have only been there for me as much as I needed. The people that I began meeting started to become more like family to me and are always there. So, there can be a variety of reasons as to why you are having a difficult time sharing, but it's not always a negative thing, especially if it helps you out in the long run. Sending lots of love and hugs your way!

It is very difficult to talk to someone else about things that are personal. However talking often make what bother us appear more manageable and less threatening.

It might be due to the emotional suppression, do not hold back when it comes to expressing yourselves. Think about factors such as self-love, self-respect, and self-care. No one can understand you better than yourself. Sometimes you have to speak what is on your mind to prevent the blockage of your emotions. Try talking to yourself in front of the mirror, if you feel that lack of confidence is the reason this is happening. There are always people who will accept you for being you, and you won't be afraid to express yourself that day. But we cannot wait for that day to arrive, this is one of the aspects in something called fighting for life.

Maybe your brain is trying to process what happened. Sometimes when an incident happens, it causes us to have overwhelming feelings. Your brain is overloaded with cluttering pieces. Therefore, it may take time for the information to sink in. It is also possible your brain is in a shock mode. Your brain is on pause. It may be a good sign that your brain is protecting itself. It may take some time to recollect the memory and describe what happened in words. But as time goes by, it may be easier. Some people prefer pen and paper journalling over sharing verbally. But whatever works.

It can be painful and confusing. Some experiences can be difficult to talk about, and that's totally normal. Sometimes we need some time to process what happened and then take the time to talk about it without pressure and slowly when we feel ready. Having a hard time opening up about something is okay, sometimes it takes some getting used to or getting comfortable especially if it's a painful situation. Reliving memories can cause a turmoil of emotions and even though embracing those emotions is good, it's not always easy. Being given a safe and supportive space here on 7cups can help with that process. Hope this help, best of luck!